awesometastical101:When anybody comes out and tells you they’re asexual, please believe them. Being

awesometastical101:When anybody comes out and tells you they’re asexual, please believe them. Being told that you just haven’t found the right person, or that things will change in a few years is just as bad as telling someone who’s gay that’s it’s only a phase.Asexuality is just as real as homosexuality. It’s just as real as heterosexuality. It’s real just like being bi, or pan. Asexuality is not abstinence. It’s a lack of sexual attraction or desire.You can still have a healthy, romantic, relationship with a person without sex being involved. I am a proud asexual and everything in this comic has been said to me. Other asexuals have had it worse than me. They’ve been told worse things, been asked worse questions and some think there’s something wrong with them because they don’t want to have sex. This lovely lady did a post on A standing for Asexual and not Ally, and it describes what I mean by worse excruciatingly well.So please, believe a person when they tell you their asexual, because it’s very real and not something to be ignored.I am not asexual but this is my understanding of aexuality, so please bear with me. Asexuality is a sexual orientation where people of this sexual orientation do not desire to have sex to love and be loved, do not equate sex with romantic love, and most of all, do not equate sex with life.What I mean by that last one is that I’ve heard people say time and time again that in a loving relationship, sex is the “ultimate” way of showing love for one another. No. I don’t think so, as sex has always been an intimate act in my eyes, and there’s plenty of intimate actions couples take that don’t include being that way with one another. Holding hands, kisses both on the mouth and on one’s cheeks, hugging, cuddling, and even simply talking are all intimate acts that couples participate in that, while not sex, have an intensity to them just the same as having sex does. What I mean is, every action we participate in with another person leaves us with feelings, and intimate actions taken with a person you romantically love don’t really need to be sexual to give us intense feelings. I repeat what I said before, I am not asexual, but that doesn’t mean I think asexuality isn’t a real sexuality, as asexuality very much so is! Do not call a person that is asexual “going through a phase” or “just confused”. You are not that person, you do not know how they think nor feel. A person isn’t “going through a phase” when they are braving the dangers of a society that has constantly belitted and laughed mockingly at people for even the tiniest of differences to come out and tell people their own difference(s). A person “hasn’t met the right person yet” because they know for themselves that will never happen, that they don’t need to meet “the right person” to feel right about who they are. The only right person there will ever be for someone, in my opinion, is that someone their self! Asexuality. Asexuals. Aces. People that don’t equate sex to love. People that don’t sexually desire and don’t need to sexually desire to feel love and be loved. People that already participate in intimate acts that aren’t sexual, because life has enough intimate moments to give them those same intense feelings of love and peace those in good sex-having relationships feel. That’s my understanding of asexuality. -- source link

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