spaceempress: celticpyro:eeveelutionsforequality:someoneintheshadow446: Apparently this isn&rsqu
spaceempress: celticpyro: eeveelutionsforequality: someoneintheshadow446: Apparently this isn’t a bad stereotype from sitcoms and that real women who do this exist. It’s not just women, I’ve dated women and guys who do this. I’m not the kind of person who “fights for” anybody - if they say that they’re leaving, of course I’ll ask why and talk it through with them, but I’m not going to buy a bouquet and appear at their door at 3am to try to get something from them that they said they didn’t want to give. The amount of times that I’ve heard “If you really loved me, you’d fight for me.” and I’ve been like “Well, if I really respected you and cared for you then I’d want you to be happy, rather than wanting you to do whatever it is that I want you to do.” and they come out with “So, what, you don’t want to be with me?” and I’m like “It’s not about what I want. If I wanted somebody’s watch and they didn’t want to give me the watch, I wouldn’t just take the watch. This is no different.” and then they push and push like “Just tell me that you want to be with me and I’ll stay.” and I’m like “I’m not going to do that, I want you to do what will make you happy.” and then I get called a heartless psychopath who never loved them and will never love anybody… so that’s fun. ~ Vape Just…don’t do this. This is bad. Communicate clearly, some people will think you actually mean what you say and others are struggling with social skills enough. If you want to stay, stay. Don’t say ‘no’ and expect someone to not respect your answer. Heck, why would you WANT someone to not respect your boundaries? Stuff like this ruins the legitimacy of ‘No means no’ and #MeToo. Don’t test people. No means no. People can’t read minds. Don’t expect them to. Communicate if your doubts and/or want reassurance. Isn’t this happening because of movies portraying these things as something romantic? People see it and want to have that experience too. They want to have the ultimate romantic moment, which they think is this. They want to feel wanted and think this is the best way to get that. Life is not like in the movies. Just be honest and talk things through. -- source link