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thefandomdropout: picksnfros: ctron164: trininadz: ctron164: gladiatorbless: ctron164: priiincessaurum: I didn’t grow up with a father. But even if I did I wouldn’t think daddy issues were remotely amusing. You don’t know how it feels to watch your friends communicate with their dads. Or what the presence of a man could’ve stopped a lot of us, especially females, from the mistakes we made looking for other men to fill that void our fathers left. Or what about my mother? For her to have to live with an empty home. How she had to leave me by myself because she was a single mother who worked long nights. How stressed out she was that sometimes she forgot to keep the door open and I would cry and wait for a neighbor to come get me. Daddy issues aren’t a joke. Some girls are scared of letting another man into their life because of it. Some girls flinch at a mans touch because of it. Just stop Agree. I don’t even know how to have a relationship with the opposite sex. My friendships with men are all antagonist. Scared to death to be in a relationship but dying to be in a loving partnership. Girls are said to seek a husband like their father, how do you do that when your father is absent? Who do you set your standards and priorities by when there is no one there. Who walks you down the aisle? Who do my kids call grandpa? Daddy issues are not a joke. I absolutely get this and it fucking sucks with the worst part being people not getting how this influences everything in your life that you aren’t moving on on purpose. Hmmm u wudnt believe I was having this same conversation with a friend of mine today bcuz im going thru the same thing. ctron164 gladiatorbless priiincessaurum bcuz of nt growing up with my dad or even having a relationship with him I have a lot of trust issues and abandonment issues as well and ppl just expect u to “get over” it yuh knw *sigh * they jus dnt knw or understand hw hard it is. I think it’s a life long pain honestly because family being apart of your life for the long haul is to be expected. Realizing that wasn’t the case here, took me awhile to accept but I know I made the right choice. You can’t connect with someone who is self absorbed, emotionally stunted, dismissive, sexist and abusive overall and they want to pick and choose when you’re important enough to bother with. Plus the typical trying to find out about and or bash my mother thing. Not here for that especially with him having abandoned her in the first place, so there’s that. I hear you. You start to wonder if you would be the same person, or better if he stayed around in your life, and you even begin to think of something being wrong with you because he left you. Then there comes a time where you get left behind so much, you don’t even try to start anything new again because you don’t even want to put yourself in that emotional predicament of talking yourself into moving on and trying to forget about it all. Father issues are not a joke, they leave scars. Absolutely touched up on everything I’ve thought about concerning his absence. However after spending a loooooong weekend at his house in 2011 I was grateful he didn’t try to be a parent to me. He was awful to his wife and was verbally abusive to my siblings. I actually left Maryland feeling bad for them all and thought I lucked out although I still wish I got to know my aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents on that side of the family. I never really had all of that with my mom so I thought I was robbed and I see that in how I deal with people now. I get close enough, share just enough just so if and when people aren’t what I thought they were, I’m fine which is fucked up but I’m trying. It’s just difficult and it doesn’t help either that my longest friendship I ever had recently ended because the person was a pathological liar. People forget your parents teach us how to interact with people even if they don’t explicitly mean to pass on their social habits. Because of my father’s absence I just don’t have any sort of patience for false hopes, broken promises , manipulation and lying. -- source link