adultadhdlifehacks: Negative Self-Talk: Detect and RedirectFellow ADHD travelers, we are our own wor
adultadhdlifehacks: Negative Self-Talk: Detect and RedirectFellow ADHD travelers, we are our own worst critics, and often it feels like it’s with good reason. Why can’t I do the simplest of things that others find so easy? Why does every morning consist of a game of WHERE-THE-FUCK-ARE-MY-KEYS? The problem is that indulging the negative self-talk doesn’t find the fucking keys and, in fact, clouds your head so much that, for example, your eyes can dart around the room and miss that they’re right there, slightly obscured by that piece of paper.From ADDitude:Our negative self-talk is usually automatic. It is not something we consciously think about, but it just “kicks in” whenever there is a triggering event.Negative messages and stories tend to be on a “tape.” In other words, once an event or a word triggers our reaction, the tape begins to play. It can go on and on, repeating the same negative message in our minds, sending us into a tailspin that can last for hours, days, or months.Negative thinking is usually irrational, but to you it sounds like the truth. You have deceived yourself into believing a lie, and sometimes only a close friend or a counselor can point out the deceptiveness of the message you are listening to.From addcrusher: Become AWARE of your negative talk. (Confession: When I pull a bonehead move, which is usually trivial, inconsequential – I replay what I was often told as a kid and yell at myself, “You @#$%$ dummy!”) Wow, gotta cut that out!Identify the various types of of negative talk you engage in most (there are several, as described by Dr. Daniel Amen, who calls them “species”).Understand that negative thoughts are most often inaccurate, and always self-defeating.Pay more attention to your successes… We ADHD adults/kids tend to “filter out” successes in our thoughts and recollections – leaving only the ‘failures’. -- source link