embyrr922: cali-cocaine: this is good I’d just like to add, see how they behave when they&rsqu
embyrr922:cali-cocaine:this is goodI’d just like to add, see how they behave when they’re angry/frustrated/exhausted, and if you see something that concerns you, wait until they’re calm, and then talk to them about it. My husband used to yell when he got frustrated, but after I explained to him that I found it upsetting, he stopped yelling and started consciously working on asking for help before he got to that level of frustration. When I’m upset over something, or just in a bad mood, I tend to withdraw. My husband explained to me that it makes him feel like I’m mad at him, so now when I need some space, I’ll tell him what I’m upset about, or that I’m in a bad mood for no particular reason, and I need to be alone for a little while. See your friends and partners at their worst, but don’t assume that their worst is immutable. If someone loves and cares about you, they’ll try to accommodate you to the best of their ability.And if they don’t try to accommodate to you, walk away from the relationship. It’s not going to change, you can’t make someone care if they don’t. No matter how much you think you love them, a one-sided love is not magic to make them love you back, no matter how desperately and intensely you think you love them. Down the road, it’ll only lead to an imbalanced dynamic in your relationship in which you have to constantly tolerate and endure everything about them that’s upsetting to you, meanwhile they will easily treat you badly for your traits that they don’t quite like. Some things aren’t meant to be. And if your relationship dynamic is like this, then it means it’s not meant to be. You need both parties to be equally willing to compromise and accommodate so that the other feels comfortable. So if your relationship is one sided and imbalanced, do yourself a favour and get out of it -- source link
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