abusetroubles: were-all-queer-here: fatphobiabusters: infjadvice: Credit: Ashley McMinn There are a
abusetroubles: were-all-queer-here: fatphobiabusters: infjadvice: Credit: Ashley McMinn There are a LOT of asks that we get from our followers that deal with this sort of topic. Unfortunately its very common to see that a lot of abuse that people deal with comes from their own parents. It can put a big dent in their self esteem. It can also teach them maladaptive behaviors that can hurt future relationships with other people. I hope this post can help give some peace of mind. - Mod Dom This {One - A dark-skinned person in a pink dress talking to a lighter skinned person with purple hair. They are sitting on a bed in one of their bedrooms. The picture: “Hold on to the idea that you won’t have to live with your parents forever.” Two - A person with dark hair sitting on a couch, clearly upset, while their mother seems to be shouting at them about her own problems. The person is thinking, “This is her problem, this has nothing to do with me.” The picture says: “It can be hard not to internalize cruelty, especially if it’s directed at you by a parent. Please know that you did absolutely nothing to deserve it.“ Three - A dark skinned person sitting at a table trying to do homework, but their mother keeps bothering them. She says, “I feel so unappreciated. Nobody cares about me. You don’t understand how it feels to be a mother who slaves away for her children all day.” The person responds with, “I don’t have time for this, Mom. I’m trying to do my homework.” The picture says: “Don’t give in to passive-aggressive behaviour. Your time and energy are more valuable than anyone’s mind games.” Four - A checklist against a blue background with pink flowers. It says: “Things That Are NOT Your Responsibility.” “1. Fixing your family” “2. Taking care of your parents financially or emotionally” “3. Loving or forgiving your parent despite their behavior” “4. Learning about your parent’s past in order to understand their behavior” Five - A dark-skinned graduate, holding a diploma while wearing a cap and gown. The picture says: “Don’t spend your energy trying to fix your parents or get back at them. Live life for own happiness. YOU deserve it!” Six - A bigger person cutting various vegetables with a laptop in front of them. The picture says: “Take pride in your ability to be independent. Online tutorials can help you learn to cook, do laundry, apply to college, and lots more.” Seven - Another checklist against a darker blue background with more pretty pink flowers. This one says: “Remember:” “1. You are worth loving, even if your parents don’t show it to you.” “2. You’re allowed to grieve the healthy relationship you may never have with your parents.” Eight - A person holding a golden dog close in what looks like a bedroom. The picture says: “It’s okay to avoid your family when they don’t treat you well. Utilize safe spaces in your home, like your room, the garage, or the front porch.” Nine - A person talking to what looks like a darker skinned therapist on a white couch. The picture says: “Don’t keep your stress bottled inside. Talk to someone you trust, like a teacher, a friend, or a therapist!” -- source link
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