lillybgoddess: Knowing Your RoleHello again to all of my fans and followers. It’s been a crazy
lillybgoddess: Knowing Your RoleHello again to all of my fans and followers. It’s been a crazy few weeks and I’ve missed hosting this day….so it’s good to be back. This week I want to talk about Roles….and knowing what role you play in the lifestyle. So in this lifestyle of Hotwifing…there are 3 roles. The Hotwife of course…..The Stag….and The Bull. And because I focus on Stag/Vixen Hotwifing, I will explain the roles in that style only. We all know there is another form of Hotwifing called Cuckolding but that is not my form..I do not practice it and I think there are plenty of blogs on here that focus on that form and not enough on Stag/Vixen Hotwifing…so I will be one of the few that does so.Hotwives….your role is the most obvious. You are the focal point of the whole thing. The men in the lifestyle are your playground. You are probably married or in a relationship that gives you the freedom to play with other men. To fuck and suck multiple men is what you do. But…youre not doing it just for yourself. In fact, your main goal should be to please your Stag. You should know that his pleasure is watching you have pleasure. Your role is to give him that by also fully pleasuring your Bull and yourself. Your role is also to be honest with your Stag. Play by the rules that you both set. And to be reclaimed by your Stag after your playdate. Most of you practicing Hotwives already know this….so this is all mostly for the ones who are interested in starting the lifestyle.Stags….your role is protection. She is your treasure. Never allow her to be put in a dangerous situation. Make sure that you grill every Bull carefully and thoroughly. If the Bull doesn’t like it….Tough Titty. Move on to the next one. Her safety is worth more than a fun fling. Your role is also to command respect from any Bull that enters the fray. To also be honest with your Vixen about all things. And never to push her to do things that she isn’t comfortable doing. Follow the rules you both set. And of course….to reclaim your Hotwife. Above all….Stags…treat her like a Queen and give her the freedom to be the Hotwife. That requires you to put away all jealous feelings and enjoy watching her be pleasured for you. Remember she is doing this for you and the relationship. Bulls….your role is to be absolutely, completely respectful and open to the couple’s boundaries. Never assert yourself to control the situation unless they say it’s ok. You also are to treat the Vixen like a Queen. Before, during, and after playtime. Never stand the Vixen up. If you do, don’t expect another chance. Remember that the Stag is in charge. What he says…goes. But sometimes the Stag defers that power to the Vixen and in those cases…What she says…goes. Make everything about her….not you. She may want your cock bad, but if your attitude is shitty…your cock will have no chance. Be kind, sweet, and gentlemanly. Remember that you are being given a gift. A gift of extreme importance to this couple and it’s not really about you at all. So leave your feelings at home. And don’t ever attempt to take your playtime into meaning that she wants more than sex. Love is not negotiable. You will not receive her love. You may receive her friendship but that is it. This is the most important thing for you to realize.Now that you know the roles…use them properly. I see too many people who just don’t understand how it works. For most of us in the lifestyle…this is it. This will be a weekly posting just for Hotwives, Stags, Bulls, and Swingers. Every Tuesday I will focus on your questions, comments, and statements of the Hotwife lifestyle. Feel free to direct all questions today through the submit feature of my Blog! Thank you and Happy Hotwifing! ~LillybGoddessFollow my other blog @hotwifelifestyle101 for all archived questions and episodes. Also all things Hotwives! -- source link