iamcamdon: psiidmon: carry-on-my-wayward-butt: I’d say no to him too he makes really fucking t
iamcamdon:psiidmon:carry-on-my-wayward-butt:I’d say no to him too he makes really fucking terrible financial decisionsEmbarrassing public proposals AND wasting a ton of money? sounds like a keeper!I’m really in love with this b/c these grandiose public proposals always don’t sit right with me. (I’m talking in the context of cishetero relationships, just fyi.) Since they are traditionally instigated by the man, they put an immense amount of pressure upon the women right off the bat. Tons of strangers around them, all hoping for a reason to cheer and congratulate a “happy couple”. Potentially tons of planning and investment by the man. The woman is basically forced into saying “Yes”. If she says “No”, she risks public scorn and disappointment - “He did all this for you! How could you say ‘No’?!” - as well as being painted as a villainous bitch, thereby making the man the defeated hero. As far as public spectators can see, he was the one who bravely put his heart out there, and she was the one who carelessly struck him down.It’s kind of a ridiculous thing that needs to stop. I know people enjoy heartwarming moments like this, and it looks all sweet and lovely in the movies and such, but this is a horrible burden to place upon the one who is proposed to. It’s essentially a candy-coated version of a shotgun wedding. -- source link
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