hlprs: randomnerd192: hlprs: Fun fact-check: Virtually all of the dead “lesbian and bisex

hlprs:randomnerd192:hlprs:Fun fact-check: Virtually all of the dead “lesbian and bisexual characters” were lesbians.Virtually all of the “lesbian and bisexual characters” who got happy endings were bisexual.Bisexual women are not and have never been targeted by this trend.NAME THE PROBLEM: Lesbophobia.NAME THE VICTIMS: Lesbians.While you’re right about that trend, I feel like maybe your reasoning is a bit off. Yes, it’s incredibly damaging for us lesbians to continue to only see us killed off, but I believe that it’s also damaging for my bi friends to keep seeing that they will only get a happy ending if they are with a male, you know? They keep seeing that the lesbian that the bi character loves is killed, only for the bi character to be set up with the usually way more poorly written and unattractive straight male option. And while killing off lesbians is damaging and trust me, I’m not trying to diminish that point, we can’t keep claiming that bi girls aren’t impacted by this at all, because they are. Bi girls and lesbians both are being told that if they’re not there for a male, then they’re worthless, hence why so many female/female relationships are destroyed on tv. Tldr: bi girls only get happy endings because their lesbian lives are killed off and they’re set up with the straight male option, which is damaging to bi girls because it tells them their female crushes are invalid and they have to end up with a male to be happyI agree that this may be damaging, but it isn’t anywhere near as damaging as lesbians literally seeing ourselves get killed off constantly, in everything, everywhere, while bisexual women get to live and be happy. I also don’t think it’s all that damaging considering that bi women are attracted to men (so “ending up with a man” isn’t a tragic, horrible outcome for them, and studies show that it’s a statistically likely outcome, seeing as something like 90% of bi women end up with men).The thing is that when bi women talk about this as a “wlw problem” or whatever, they don’t mean “let’s acknowledge and talk about the ways this effects lesbians and bi women differently, let’s acknowledge how terrible this is for lesbians and also how it kind of hurts bi women too”, they’re saying “let’s erase the difference between these harms and pretend that we are harmed not only by the same things lesbians are, but to the same degree and in the same way, so that we can talk over lesbians, make our voices the only voices heard, and appropriate lesbian struggle and suffering in a way that alienates and erases lesbians from visibility and from the discussion of something that almost completely and totally disproportionately hurts lesbians specifically”. And that has always been the point of this “wlw” nonsense.So like… tbh I can’t bring myself to have all that much sympathy for bi women in this situation, since they’re actively trying to downplay and erase lesbian suffering from this equation and pretend that our oppression is their oppression despite the fact that it objectively is not.And yes, I’m definitely, definitely still bitter about the fact that in the wake of Lexa’s death, in the wake of over two dozen lesbian deaths on television in the space of a couple of months, the only voices that were being heard, the only authors whose articles were being publicized and shared, the only people being interviewed about the situation were all bisexual, and every last one of them talked about this being a “wlw” issue, or a “queer women” issue, and every single one of them made the conscious choice to erase lesbians from the equation despite the fact that lesbian characters were dying by the dozen while bisexual characters got to live and love and be happy.So frankly, in the wake of all that… the fact that bi women might see on television that bisexual women end up with men, which is statistically true, isn’t even a blip on my problem radar next to the mass deaths of every lesbian in television media. And I don’t see much of a point to advocating against this most mild form of harm against bi women when bi women have shown absolutely no intention of advocating against harm against lesbians, and in fact have shown a serious and disturbing propensity towards appropriating harm against lesbians, claiming it as their own, and erasing the lesbians who are being harmed completely so they can feel like they are more oppressed than they actually are.If anyone’s wondering here’s the current breakdown, 01/19: -- source link

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