feministlikeme:micdotcom:Not having kids (by choice or by chance) is a perfectly healthy and nor

feministlikeme: micdotcom: Not having kids (by choice or by chance) is a perfectly healthy and normal thing to do. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Just listen to the women who attended the first-ever Not Mom Summit, a safe-space conference for those who are childfree. They put forward a solid list of what you should never say to people who don’t have children. I have had zero desire to have a child my entire life. My dreams were never filled with white picket fences or a host of small children clamoring about my feet. Instead I dreamt of traveling, of exploring new places, of my partner and I having lazy sleepy Sundays with our furbabies curled in fluffy balls on the bed, of creating a beautiful and rewarding career in my passions (photography & feminism); not changing dirty diapers, morning sickness, crying toddlers, jam hands, bullies at school torturing my child, agonizing over college savings,.. I could go on like this for days. (Not that I think there aren’t amazing, wonderful, magical aspects to motherhood; they just aren’t worth the downsides for me, personally. There are just as many people who would say the same of my dream described above). I have had people tell me I am selfish, self-absorbed; that I would make a great mom, that I’ll change my mind; how would I feel if my parents had done the same? My dreams don’t seem to matter if they don’t adhere to what society has come to expect of my anatomy. Just because I don’t ascribe to the expectations you have placed upon me does not make me somehow lesser or worse of a person, and certainly not any more selfish than the woman over the moon about having her child and th I am a woman first and foremost,which obviously gives me the potential to be a mother, but why would you expect I must be a mother as well as a woman, if we do not assume the every adult male should also be a father? I have been waiting for the day since I was 13 that I wouldn’t be told I’ll change my mind; I’m 26 now, and still my knowledge of myself and my desires is still constantly combated and always questioned. Maybe 2 decades will be enough to convince others that I know myself and what I want from my own life better than you. -- source link

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