Some girls are very keen to give their submission. They have a hunger to submit, a hunger to surrend
Some girls are very keen to give their submission. They have a hunger to submit, a hunger to surrender, a deep seated need to find their Dom and give themselves to him. Please don’t rush. Know what it is you have to offer, and how much of it you are able to give. Quite beside the possibility of giving yourself to a man who isn’t worthy of you, who doesn’t have the strength to wield the power you’d like to give, or who doesn’t have the wisdom to use that power wisely, there is an issue of knowing what it is you are going to give. I’ve written before about the concept of ownership - to me it is a very particular thing, a very real thing. The way some people write about it being ‘owned’ is simply having a Dom who is your primary partner, who can make choices about who they can and cannot play with, and what they can and cannot do. I think ownership is much more powerful and important than that. To me, ownership is a sign of total submission. That is, submission without limit or restraint. If a girl acknowledges that I own her then she is saying that there is now nothing she will refuse me. Her life, her property, her actions, are mine to command and use - her commitment to me supersedes all others in her life… friends, family, the law, should be betrayed at my command. If a girl reaches this state it should be tested, but if it is found to be real it should be greatly celebrated. D/s at this level is a very profound, powerful, and moving thing. A scene can take on an entirely different quality as you are now both aware that all limits have been removed, that there is no option for saying 'no’ (or at least no option for that to be listened to). No perversion or degradation can ever be entirely ruled out. No betrayal or loss is impossible. If you wish to be owned you must prepare yourself for this. There’s nothing wrong with partial submission. But ownership - complete submission without any limitations - is another beast entirely. Even a single 'But of course we know I don’t mean that…’ breaks the perfection of it. Prevents it from being entirely real. Makes a very particular experience impossible. And because I know that some people worry about me, worry I may actually be a psychopath - I do actually live in the real world, I do understand the existence of laws, fairness and the necessity of a submissive remaining healthy and sane. As my girl puts it “You owning me means there’s nothing you could do that I wouldn’t forgive you for. I can give it to you because I trust you to only take actions which you know how to deal with the fallout from.” But still… there are places ownership allows you to explore, energies you can create, emotions and feelings that are just not accessible in any other way. Of course, you’re at liberty to use these words as you will… but I would still say this - don’t try to give too much, too soon. For one thing, you may fail to do so. But if you do succeed… Well, giving everything is a magickal act not to be trifled with. It’ll change you forever. -- source link