worthlesslittlenothing:the most perfect words See, why not be both? Find a guy who can treat y
worthlesslittlenothing:the most perfect words See, why not be both? Find a guy who can treat you like a set of holes while, behind it, caring about you. Don’t reward sociopaths, but find good people who can pretend to be sociopaths when you want them to.I’m finding it more difficult lately to just do a casual thing. I don’t feel into it without getting to know a person. The term I’ve heard of is “demi-sexual” in that you have to have some kind of connection to function. I may be that, or I may need to at least know my partner’s tastes before I go forward. I don’t know.I’m capable of treating a woman like a fucktoy, like she’s nothing more than a cock-sleeve, like she has no purpose but being fucked. But I’m not able to actually believe that to the core. I don’t see that as a flaw; we need more empathy in the world, not less, but we’re also not to be blamed for what turns us on. However, getting from the acceptable state to the unacceptable (but really sexually hot) state is tricky.I was approached recently by a tumblr user who, by her photos, is fucking gorgeous. She was looking to get off, as we all are (be real), and wanted a fantasy bit from me. I tried one angle (too scary), then asked some questions for clarification. Too much work; I was out. But, much as I’d love to turn on a hot woman, even over the internet, I can’t say I’m sorry. I work best when I know my partner, when I have a connection or understanding. If it takes too long (in your opinion) to make that connection, well, we probably aren’t right for each other anyway.I can be criticized for being slow, or not dominant, or whatever. But I’m honest with myself (and y’all, if you’ve read this far), and I know what works for me. I’d rather be real to myself than fake for almost any amount of female attention. I say “almost” because, again, I’m honest with myself. :) -- source link