thetriskeliondiaries: I’m gonna say this one. time. If you have a scene with your submissive a
thetriskeliondiaries: I’m gonna say this one. time. If you have a scene with your submissive and then you leave them uncared for, alone, shrug them off, shut them down-you have crossed a line from BDSM or D/s to abuse. I’ll add this for those who will go all “butbutbutbut that’s how our dynamic works…”: I don’t give a flying fox tail fuck. If you are not back at their side in .2 milliseconds hydrating them and comforting them and holding them and navigating them to a different position so their muscles don’t cramp after that level of intensity? Fuck you. Now I’ll explain. Aftercare is crucial. Submissives experience “subdrop” more when they aren’t cared for properly afterward. If you think Dominance is fuck em and leave em? You are an abuser hiding behind a title and you’re the reason this lifestyle gets the rap it does. •Water. •Warmth. •Closeness (or even a little distance if they can’t handle physical contact post-scene, but STAY CLOSE even if you’re not touching them). •Food, specifically high in potassium or protein. {pro tip: mini-mini Snickers bars are bomb ass for this-chocolate for sugar, nuts for protein, small for tiny mouthfuls that don’t take as much effort to consume}. D/s is more than the sex and the roughness and the boot licking cock worshipping orgasmic bliss. It’s the end. I might even go so far as to say: aftercare is the most crucial part of this entire lifestyle. Take care of Your submissive. And they will take care of You. Promise. -- source link