love-natural-love: WHY LESBIAN SEX IS BETTER Women know what women want. Our natural emotional conne
love-natural-love: WHY LESBIAN SEX IS BETTER Women know what women want. Our natural emotional connection with other women makes lesbian sexuality a profoundly different experience than any woman can ever experience with a man. And the physical aspect of sex between women is a kind of magic so special that lesbians wonder why any woman would ever want anything else. Sex educator Jenny Block is bisexual. She produced a video at Huffington Post’s “Cliteracy” project that explains why lesbian sex is better: Most women never have orgasms from heterosexual intercourse. All those movies about how “romantic” and “sexy” it is to “make love” to a man are just patriarchal propaganda. Teenage girls are always disappointed after they experience what sex with guys is really like, but the fact that phallic intercourse is unsatisfying (and often painful) doesn’t usually register in her mind as significant in terms of her own sexuality. Her friends tell her she’ll “get used to it,” but even after she gets used to it, sex still isn’t what she wants it to be and doesn’t satisfy her own desires because sex with a male is always about what he wants. Women know how to make a woman orgasm. If you can orgasm by masturbating, you can do the same thing together with another woman and make each other orgasm, too. The only reason more women don’t have sex with each other is because we are taught that lesbianism is ‘wrong” and taught that we “need” men sexually. It’s the same reason we are taught that masturbation is bad. The easiest and most natural way for a woman to really enjoy sex is by herself or with another woman. But because men demand sexual access to women, we’re taught a view of sexuality that is defined and controlled by men. Girls are trained to pass the “patriarchal fuckability test” and to measure our own value by how well we conform to male desires. Conforming ourselves to this phallocentric definition requires that we learn to ignore our own needs and deny our own desires. “Love” means being a man’s sexual property, existing for his pleasure, learning to perform as a penis receptacle. Teaching a girl how to be what a woman “should” be according to the system of male supremacy means teaching her to reject her own natural sexuality. She is taught to be ashamed of her own body, warned against the “danger” of masturbation, and especially prohibited from exploring the possibility of lesbian identity. Heteronormativity pushes her toward seeking approval from males and limits her erotic imagination so she can only consider males as potential partners for “love.” This kind of training in childhood makes girls think that sex with men is the only “real” sex, so we aren’t even allowed to imagine sex without men. Our “crushes” on other girls are dismissed as insignificant. If we develop actual romantic relationships with other girls, our parents tell us we are only “going through a phase.” Even when our same-sex attractions lead to physical intimacy, we are told (and may tell ourselves) that this is just “experimenting”; it doesn’t count as “real” sex and doesn’t make us “real” lesbians. Because of all this, many women are forced into a kind of pseudo-heterosexuality, engaging in unsatisfying relationships with males in an attempt to prove they are “normal.” Even though sex with men doesn’t satisfy her, even though she never orgasms from “normal” sex, the pseudo-heterosexual woman has boyfriends and may even marry a man because she knows that is what she “should” do. Watch Jenny Block’s “Cliteracy” video. Ask yourself: Why do women think they “need” men at all? Also worth mentioning: Sex is better with someone whom you are attracted to! I think that all girls are attracted to girls from birth and that girl/girl intimacy has a specific function in places like healthy coming of age and lifelong bonds of sisterhood. It’s just that that behavior is not usually rewarded so most girls learn to see attractive females as competition instead of potential love interests. Science has found that most women find women sexually attractive whether or not they see themselves as straight. -- source link