onlymonica: GOOD ADVICE! So, here’s how far we’ve come with all of this. One of th
onlymonica: GOOD ADVICE! So, here’s how far we’ve come with all of this. One of the current crop of ‘advice givers’ in syndicated newspapers (Carolyn Hax, probably a pseudonym, but nonetheless someone who dispatches free advice to all who write in questions, ala the late, great ‘Dear Abby’. Or perhaps it’s Abby herself, writing from beyond….). These columns were staple fodder for housewives throughout the 50s - 90s, before the internet took over the task of dispensing advice. Like who to vote for President. Sorry, I digress. Normally these columns are dull. But this one caught my attention!! Do read on: DEAR CAROLYN: My boyfriend is a very athletic, CrossFit, off-road-biking, jock kind of guy. He also sometimes likes to wear ladies’ lingerie, which is completely fine with me. The other day he was wearing a satiny bra under a T-shirt and a friend of ours happened to see the strap. The friend is kind of freaked out and has been pestering me about “what this means” and if it is some weird fetish I have. (It is not. It’s the boyfriend’s thing. And he does not otherwise wear women’s garments.) I think it’s none of this friend’s business and I’m under no obligation to answer, but my non-answering has convinced the friend I am hiding something unseemly. How to deal with this? It’s no big deal, but it’s irritating. Friend is not otherwise nosy or judgmental. What Lies Beneath DEAR BENEATH: An unambiguous “Drop it, because this isn’t even remotely your business” is all you need, as long as you have the proper enforcement of a zero-further-discussion policy. Nice to know someone’s sustaining the satiny-skivvies industry. Most women I know are so thoroughly done with it. https://www.mercurynews.com/2018/02/10/boyfriend-wears-ladies-lingerie-under-his-clothes-and-friend-is-freaked-out/ So…., we’ll know when we’ve gotten a step further when Carolyn asks her ‘why isn’t he wearing other women’s garments. (Not garments from other women, but other garments that women would wear…). Lingerie has no gender. -- source link