eroticshortstories4women: How To Train Your Man… There is no more effective way to train men
eroticshortstories4women: How To Train Your Man… There is no more effective way to train men than through their cocks/orgasms…Yeah, yeah…there will always be exceptions. But seriously…this is it. Men are incredibly easy to train if you understand what drives them.Some women and men are of the opinion that keeping a male sub in constant, long (or very long) term chastity is the most effective way to train. I completely disagree. The reason for this is simple: if a man knows his cock will never be allowed to come, then the orgasm ceases to become a motivation, or a carrot, if you will…So here is what I do. I use the cock/orgasm to reprogram and condition my slave. So what follows involves using chastity as a training device rather than as a punishment or way of life. Basic steps look something like this:1. The chastity device.There are many versions out there, but for this to work, this needs to be a device that is secure and lock-able. I must have the key. I have the power over his cock and he cannot escape. This is an enormously powerful and symbolic message.2. Putting it on.Eventually, wearing the chastity device will become second nature – but you must set the example, set the stage, the first few times that you put the cage on. The manner and words and attitude that you adopt when you put this on him for the first time will stay with him as he wears it, and going forward, how he feels about wearing it. The first few times I make sure that he knows how meaningful this is…that I am purposefully choosing to take control of his body, that I am taking his cock, his symbol of masculinity, away from him. Owning it. Controlling it. Mine. For as long as I wish. I make him beg me to put it on. I make him watch as I lock it. I make him thank me for doing it. 3. The Rules.Now, I have him. He’s mine. Seriously. What will a man not do to have his cock, his pleasure? Both are now mine to command. It is best to have thought this out very carefully before locking him in. Chastity training is very powerful and making mistakes here isn’t desirable.For the best results, these three components are essential:Begin with (potentially) brief and clear-cut stints in chastityMake the things he must do to get out of chastity and/or earn his orgasm very straightforward and obtainableKeep your promisesIf you want chastity to be an effective tool, he must see that his behavior is directly tied to his release. At first, the cause/effect correlation must be very clear. Most importantly, you must keep your word. If you say that he will be allowed release from chastity after he has made you breakfast in bed five days in a row, then you must keep your promise. There are lots of memes out there depicting women changing their mind about allowing their men out of chastity. For initial training purposes, this is an absolutely horrible idea. If your sub loses faith in the cause and effect nature of chastity, he will ultimately cease to trust that his behavior will have any impact on his release – thus lessening the power of your ‘threats’.Now, once his brain has become re-wired and he realizes that he must behave…your timelines can become longer, the tasks more complicated, and you can occasionally change the rules. But I repeat – this should only be done after you have effectively broken him and trained him.The benefits of male chastityMy rules tend to force him to focus on my pleasure – to force his brain to begin associating my pleasure as a prerequisite to his. Example: He must give me a certain amount orgasms before he is released. Now, I don’t need chastity to have him do this. First, he’s happy to lick my pussy at any time. Second, I could just tell him to lick my pussy at any time. So… why connect this to chastity? Because this is more than him deciding, or me giving an order. This is my choice to literally re-wire his brain to associate my orgasms to his own pleasure. And I don’t keep what I’m doing a secret. I want him to know what I am doing. I want him to know that his body is just the tool I’m using to control his mind. Of course, I add other things on as well, but my pleasure should always come first.4. The Reward.Any time the chastity device is taken off, it should be clear that it is a kindness that you are bestowing upon him. Before it is taken off, the rules of his behavior should be crystal clear to him. Is he allowed to have a full orgasm immediately, or at a certain time? For the most effective training, I recommend that immediately following his release, you arrange for an incredibly powerful, satisfying orgasm. One that YOU take part in– either directly, or indirectly. This intense pleasure will reinforce how desirable it is to be out of chastity, and how hard he should be willing to do whatever it takes to earn his freedom from it.Later, once he has been conditioned and well trained, he will be grateful for a ruined orgasm…for being allowed to touch his cock at all. But for initial training, the orgasm should follow as soon after release as possible. Again, this is quite literally re-wiring his brain to associate you and your control of him with pleasure.Important TipsIf you keep your sub in long term (longer than a month at a time) chastity, it is important for his health that you milk his prostate monthly. This can have the added bonus of highlighting your absolute control over his body.Be sure that you understand how to properly fit and install a chastity device. An improper fit can cause un-fun pinching or cause un-fun bruising or blood flow problems.If you intend to keep your sub in chastity for longer than a day, make sure that you are using a device that will allow for air, and proper hygiene.Have fun!Ladies, You MUST Get into the routine habit of convincing (forcing) your man to Swallow his own nutritious Cum - Recycling his own Potent, Fresh, Organic Testosterone… You’ll see and experience first hand (within the first few months) the incredible enhancement benefits it will have on your Male . My Stud when I first introduced this to him, used to fucking hates this, which was why I first loved it so much, but more and more the strength and vitality I’ve seen in my Virile Lover has convinced me of “Mandatory Testosterone Recycling”… Any time NOW where he emits cum or has an orgasm during any sexual or femdom activity, he’s eating it (no ifs ands or buts). I don’t care where his erupted pudding lands, how he came, if it was an accident, or even if it was a result of loosing control due to my intense interminable “edging” and Karezza training. I don’t care if he really doesn’t want to. That “Wholesome” Miraculous Cum is going back in his mouth and down his throat! There are a lot of innovative ways to accomplish this, but I really enjoy planning ahead for it. Its also a huge encouragement for him (to obey me, and not Cum), knowing that he’s going to be forced to eat it, even though immediately after he cums his mind is more and more amenable to obeying and complying to my wishes. Some of my favorite ways to do this are:As I Ride him (enjoying multiple Orgasms with Karezza) and Skillfully “Edge” him Balls Deep, I Make him wear a condom so he isn’t over stimulated. Then - if and when I decide to allow him an explosive eruption, he ejaculates his cum into a condom so I can then empty it into his mouth.Sometimes I Make him have a ruined orgasm (I’ll explain later) onto the tile or hardwood floor. Then make him lick it up. If he resists, I’ll shove his face in it. If you let him cum inside you “Bareback” or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you.While he’s wearing a pair of panties, slowly rub his dick until he cums in them. Then carefully peel them off and make him lick it out.In your near a couch, Flip his legs over his head into the piledriver position and make him shoot his load into his open mouth and all over his own face. This is A Favorite of Mine, as I Love to play with him (and nurse on him) Leisurely for hours while we watch TV on Saturday Mornings in bed… Natural “Raging” Morning Wood…, Mmmm Mmmm Mmm … My Absolute Favorite… Make him Cum into a small glass and then pour it ALL into his mouth (with No Waste). Then I kiss him and he tastes so fucking scrumptious…Anyways, However he gets his fresh, salty sweet cum into his mouth, I’ll occasionally have him “play” with it, Gargle it, show it to me on his tongue and then I suck it out of his mouth and feed it back to him like a porn star.Word of Wisdom: Ladies, in the beginning, he’s going to be much more compliant with consuming and recycling his semen if you give him a ruined orgasm instead of a pleasurable one. I mention this elsewhere in my blog at (www.femdomdoneright.tumblr.com) but I’ll go into some more detail here. When your man has an orgasm his sexual desire drops off a cliff. He won’t want to eat his cum and will resist your instructions / authority. But if you give him a prolonged ruined orgasm, he doesn’t get much pleasure at all from his emission, BUT his sexual desire as well as his persistent erection remains extremely high, And he still can expel a good amount of testosterone saturated sperm. Your goal here is to make his pudding come out of his dick with minimal pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and orgasm actually begins several seconds before he ejaculates. So I like to experiment, learn and have the maximum fun with this. With him on his back in bed and his hands restrained I’ll tease, stroke, nurse on and cautiously pet his straining glorious dick until he gets very close to orgasm (watch his body language and breathing), and then when I think he’s right on the “Edge”, I’ll let go and watch. I’ll wait about 20 to 30 seconds and if no semen leaks out, Start Again... With Practice and If you’ve done this perfectly, his sperm will ooze and leak out about 10-15 seconds AFTER you stop stroking it. He’ll remain Rock HARD and after 3 to 5 minutes you start all over again. When you’re eventually finished with the torture, He’ll be left extremely frustrated sexually AND as hard as a steel pipe. But you actually DID give him an orgasm or 2 3 4 or 5, its just not your fault he didn’t feel them pleasurably! He’ll be much more compliant in regards to consuming his semen in this way, as you feed it to him from your seductive mouth - Promising him MORE of course if he swallows what you feed him… I like to combine this with chastity sometimes too. I’ll have him locked in his cage for a few days and release him in the wee hours of the morning (say 3am). I’ll slowly and sleepily tease and torture him for a good long time and then give him a series of libido building ruined orgasms. Then when he’s super massive and throbbing profusely I mount his desperate, raging, splendid JOYSTICK and Incarcerate him Balls Deep within my silky wet amatory Vagina and tell him to just relax and go to sleep, as I lay on top of him feeling him Supremely Pulsate. Eventually his Throbbing Hardness eventually deflates inside of me, especially if I’ve fallen asleep on top of him, and when I wake - I suck him clean to put him back in his chastity cage. Its wonderful!DOMESTICATION AND CONTROLDISCLAIMER: It seems online, many people are nervous about this category, and with good reason. Its sometimes hard to tell what your Loving Boy Toy is comfortable with, and they may not even be sure of it themselves. So take all of this slowly at first until you and your precious subservient can figure out what works for you and your FLR relationship. That being said, I seek to push right up against my suitors limits here. This is where the “forced” part of the (teaching and training) listed above becomes more real.There are several ways to instill some subordination into your male, here are some of my favorites.Face slapping. I really enjoy this. Nothing gets his attention so quickly as a corrective slap to the side of his cheek. Several (5-6) in quick succession create a look of fear in his face that I love. He can take a lot of punishment here too, just watch out for his eyes and ears. This is an especially good thing to practice while you’re fucking, straddling or riding his face - or he’s venerating your femininity by licking nurturing your pussy. Use your slaps to get his attention, give direction, and have fun. “I slap told slap you slap to slap focus slap on slap my slap clit!! slap”Hair Pulling. Grab his hair and yank his head around to where it :should” be. Do this while he’s orally trying to please you, to lead him where you want him, to hold his head in place while you slap him, to force his face into a puddle of semen for him to lick up, etc.Spanking/Cock and Ball Torture. The most common theme found on femdom websites. Here’s a sample techniques I use.Encircle his balls between your thumb and index finger and squeeze tight, they are very redilient especially if He’s Fully Erect. Pinch the mushroomed head of his dick and squeeze to slightly deflate his erection and stop an Ejaculation before it’s Too Late.Slapping - Simple… To make it hurt worse, you can grab his balls in one hand and hold them tight and steady while you slap his properly subjugated (desperate) Erection.Electricity. You need to be even more careful here. My only experience is a dog shock collar. I attach the collar around his penis shaft and testicles. It has a vibrate function (for when he’s been a good boy) and 8 levels of shocks. We’ve gotten up to level 6. He really hopes I don’t have to use 7 or 8 on him. You can experiment with the position of the collar on his erection. If the contacts are touching his balls, he’ll feel it throughout his sack and his perineum. If you flip it over and the contacts surround the base of his swollen penis, shocking sensations will affect his entire penis, all the way to the head. We’ve experimented with different levels here, and it seems his COCK is much more sensitive to electricity than his balls are. Your man’s experience may vary. This collar also has a sound/beeping function that I use as a pager when I need him. If his balls beep, he has 10 seconds to be on his knees in front of me, regardless of his prior activity, or else he’ll face punishment.FRUSTRATION/TEASINGThis is really quite simple (and my Favorite aspect of Karezza and Femdom)... When we’re playing, I Cum freely and frequently - whenever I want, he cums when he’s Allowed To. I enjoy making him suffer in this way, its honestly the most fun part of all this. There are a lot of ways I enjoy teasing and frustrating him and I’ll go over some of them now. There is one hard and fast rule in this game for us. He must always ask permission to ejaculate, no exceptions. He’ll be punished severely for an unauthorized orgasm or ejaculation.Chastity. This is a must for us. While we don’t play 24/7, I enjoy making him wear a chastity device frequently when we’re apart. I work nights, so if I’m at work, chances are he’s locked into “The Vice”. This is a locking chastity cage, similar to others, only this one has an anti-pullout mechanism that makes it very difficult to remove without the key.Its so “Empowering” for me to be able to restrict him access to his own dick. I have the power to grant him erections and orgasms, he can’t have them without me or my approval. The length of time he wears the device really changes, but it is of course entirely up to me. I usually don’t keep him in it for more than a couple days (I crave sex play time with my man often if you haven’t guessed by now), but we’ve had times that I left him in his cage for over 3 weeks. He really wasn’t happy about the time I had to leave town for 4 days and took the key with me, AFTER he’d been locked up for a week already.One of the big things you’ll notice if you start incorporating chastity into your sex life, is that he will become more and more agreeable and obedient as time goes on, if you restrict his orgasms. If we’re playing with chastity more seriously, I like to make him wait 1 to 2 weeks between orgasms. He has a high sex drive, so when I do this, he gets so horny he’ll do anything to get out of his chastity cage. Its really entertaining to see what I can get him to do. Once, after 13 days locked into the Vice, I insisted he detail my car if he wanted out of the device. He whined and complained, so I told him that he just earned himself another 3 days in the device, and I still expected the car detailed.The MOST IMPORTANT thing when incorporating chastity into your sex life is this. SAY NO. Don’t be swayed by his begging, whining, or complaining. Firstly lets get this out of the way, no male NEEDS to have an orgasm. He wants to cum, he doesn’t NEED to. So lets get that little fact out of the way immediately. We have a rule, when he’s locked up, he gets to politely ask for release or an orgasm once per day. If I feel like it, I’ll have him earnestly beg me. This is great for extracting promises from him. But if I say no, he needs to shut the fuck up about it immediately. Occasionally I’ll say yes, but most of the time I’ll say no as I’ve already decided on how long he’s going to be locked up. Do not feel bad about this. In fact, relish your power here.I get off on having him go down on me right after I tell him “No, you’re staying locked up.” While we both agreed to incorporate chastity devices into our sex life, the lockup duration is my decision alone. Use the device to modify his behavior to my liking. If I want something from him, sexual or not, I give him the order. If he doesn’t comply, I add time in the device. The power I get is intoxicating and I’m sure what mother nature intended.Teasing. Sometimes he wears The Cage around the house, sometimes not. But regardless I like to wear skimpy revealing sexy clothing, rub up against him, feel and squeeze his balls, ass cheeks, and body just to see him get a boner (or try to, hehe). I’ll take this a lot further sometimes, stroking his dick until he starts leaking precum, getting him close to orgasm, only to stop and tell him to calm down. Sometimes I even let him orally pleasure me and then fuck me until I have an orgasm or two or three, and then tell him to stop. This is delightfully frustrating for him and enjoyable for me. I get to see him walk around the house perpetually erect . Other times I’ll leave him in the chastity cage and masturbate right in front of him. One of my favorite teases is to use his mouth and mustache to make me cum and then send him away completely denied but increasingly ravenous. Sometimes I tell him I’m going to make him cum, only to stop at the last second and tell him I changed my mind, GOD I LOVE THAT !Ruined Orgasm. By far the most Male subjugating aspect to this whole Femdom thing. Its really is an Art Form. The basic idea is that you get your man very, very close to the point of orgasm and then stop all stimulation. Practice, Practice, Practice until you’ve perfected it Dear… If you do it right, he’ll just tip over the edge - and an oozing stream of his non pressurized testosterone filled semen will dribble out of his dick with barely any force, and next to no pleasure. This works best with his hands restrained obviously so he can’t try to finish the job himself. -- source link
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