so-much-to-play-with: Prompt 34:We often see lists related to D/s; “Seven Deadly Sins of a Dominant”
so-much-to-play-with: Prompt 34:We often see lists related to D/s; “Seven Deadly Sins of a Dominant”, “6 things that don’t make you a bad Dom(me)”, etc.Can you create your own list related to your own version of D/s? Boy, that’s a tough one. It’s very complex for multiple factors. First, I think nothing is completely set in stone. What may be true one day and cornerstone of a relationship may evolve (a good example in BDSM are limits). Second, because I find it can turn extremely cocky to give universal standpoints based on your little corner of the scope. Third because it’s hard to apply such lists to ourselves, actually… I mean, we all do mistakes, got bad days, and such… So, writing extensive lists of “X is of the utter importance and should apply at all times.” yada yada yada and knowing that, FOR SURE, at some point, you will screw most of it up… It can be seen as bad faith, I think.Anyway… with that in mind, here’s what I think could apply to my version of D/sKeep listening to her, to both learn about and from herBe at least as demanding toward yourself than you are toward herGet ready to failGet ready to apologize for those failuresDo your best to not have toKnow you’ll forget those rules sometimes and it will cost you, then start back at the beginningThose six dots are already incredibly hard to maintain, especially during those challenging days. For everything else, I just try build something matching who we are with my Little One… And this can’t be reduced to a handful of dots.-Twin post to come on bdsmlr. -- source link