domgentlemanj: Aftercare and why it’s essential So just thought I’d give my thoughts on aftercare an
domgentlemanj: Aftercare and why it’s essential So just thought I’d give my thoughts on aftercare and why to me it’s not only necessary but essential. After hearing from a few people on here it seems crazy to me how many subs have never experienced any aftercare or only a very minimal amount. To me it always just seems natural, if you care for the person your with, it just feels right to make sure they are ok. Think it is always important to realise that in most D/S play you are usually pushing your sub to some tough places, whether that involves, pain, use, humiliation or just hardcore fun with your hand round their throat;) So to just take some time when you’ve had your fun to make sure that they are ok and feel safe and protected seems to me to be the very least you can do:) It doesn’t even take a lot, a simple cuddle, tracing your hand through their hair and doing some Netflix binge watching, running them a bath and sitting with them or just a nice long massage. To me aftercare is an essential part of any D/S relationship and it helps to avoid the dreaded sub drop. It is part of the unwritten bond that exists between a Dom and their sub, that they give themselves to you, to use, abuse, pleasure and fuck them in anyway you see fit, but not only will you keep them safe, but afterwards when the marks are still fresh you’ll care for them too, it doesn’t seem like a lot to offer in return for all that you gain! -- source link