surelyforth:queerspeculativefiction:I’m ten years older than my fiance, so apparently I am a cradle
surelyforth:queerspeculativefiction:I’m ten years older than my fiance, so apparently I am a cradle robber *weg*. It’s funny really, that age differences in our days seems to have defaulted just something creepy. Older/younger relationships are no more destined to be creepy and bad than the good old all gays are pedophiles myth. Yes. there will be more problems in making things work for many reasons, but why shy away from loving someone just because they are not exactly like you?I’ve had this discussion on the BSN before. Basically it’s this: a 10 year+ age gap is not any kind of a deal if the youngest person is an adult (so 16/17/18). Before that point, though, it sort of is, especially when you look at situations where the older person holds any power or authority over the younger person (like a teacher/student sort of situation). Or, you know, maturity levels. Anders? Probably not a terribly mature young man.I find depictions of a thirty-something Karl lusting over an Anders who looks like he’s 13/14 to be problematic in a way that I would not find were Karl forty and Anders twenty. Add onto the fact that Anders mentions apprentices finding each other, it seems safe to assume that they were apprentices together which means the age difference is a largely manufactured one and unnecessary.I realize that this is somewhat societal perceptions and not something that would have mattered as much in the middle ages, but as a product of modern times AND someone for whom this sort of situation is pretty triggery, I feel fine being creeped out by depictions of jailbait Anders, just a I feel fine doing so as a person who has been in a relationship (as an adult) with someone who is fourteen years older than myself. True, I was talking about age differences, not pedophilia. I guess it is that I have so often seen disgust and joking things on some boards about anybody suggesting there might be more than a few years between Hawke and Anders, as if any relationship between consenting adults is gross unless they are the standard ‘the man is tops 5 years older than the woman’, and heaven help us if it’s the other way around, because then she’s a cougar and gross. Never mind me, I'm unusually prickly this morning, woke up on the wrong side of everything. -- source link
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