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averruncusho:earhartsease:averruncusho:pollylittlehigher-littlelower:whoa-its-dani:artofthecatt:Klonk! [x]How would one word a text / message to someone in this situation? (I don’t really handle calls well so I probably wouldn’t answer, it’d likely make the issues worse)If I’m struggling with depression / anxiety / whatever else I’m struggling with at that time, how do I word that? Especially in those states of mind, I don’t really put things well. And ESPECIALLY if it’s planned months ago. I don’t have the biggest grasp on “social decorum”.How do I do it without being called a faker or told to “stop making excuses” or “stop being lazy”?“Hey, I’ve really been looking forward to hanging out with you, but I’m not feeling great today and can’t make it. When can we reschedule for?”Adjust as necessary for formality. The key points covered are:Establishes you enjoy spending time with themNot the other persons faultYou don’t feel well. This is vague, and could mean The Black Death, a migraine, or you’re having a depressive episode. It is also honest. Awkward questions have been politely avoided.You can’t make it. It is not an option to do it today, and they do not have a chance to persuade you otherwise Rescheduling shows you’d still like to meet up, so you don’t end up isolating yourselfOof I sometimes do this exact thingAlso with friends you can establish a prearranged code word you can text that means all of that, so when you can barely cope you text them PANGOLIN or whatever and they know what you’re dealing with and that you’re sorry to break an arrangementThat’s really good advice, but what if I’m exalting the sheer beauty of pangolins to my friend, as one does? Then you’d use the plural, obvs PANGOLINS -- source link