fandomsandfeminism:ava-adoreee:manbootypokeball:peek-a-dillo:Reddit user HeMeYou was left “overwhelm
fandomsandfeminism:ava-adoreee:manbootypokeball:peek-a-dillo:Reddit user HeMeYou was left “overwhelmed” by advice from online strangers after accidentally discovering his son might be gay.The 38-year-old father posed the question to Reddit after finding Google searches on his son’s iPad suggesting he wanted to come out.He said: “I found out my 13 y/o son is gay… He hasn’t told me, but I want to support him. What can I do?”I’m 38, and a single dad to my 13 year old son, 14 in four months. The other day I asked my son if I could borrow his iPad and he gave it to me.After my first attempt at Google searching something I noticed that he forgot to delete his history as a lot of the search terms were along the lines of “I’m gay what now?” etc…I love him regardless of which gender he loves, in fact when I was slightly older than him I had a few flings with guys, which he doesn’t know about, so I am 100% supportive.He has seemed slightly down recently, as in, he isn’t as cheerful as he once was, and I desperately want to tell him that I love him regardless of which sexuality he is.What are my options? Should I wait for him to tell me? Or should I make a few hints at it?I’m worried that if I don’t hint at it, that he will be worried about something that he really doesn’t have to be worried about… if that makes sense. Thanks.Shortly after, he received a flood of supportive messages, with many users offering advice based on their own experiences.One user posted: “Google ‘how to tell my son I will love and support him no matter what’ and leave it in his search history.”Another said: “Let him come out on his own terms, just make sure he knows that you’ll support him and you don’t have a problem with it.”The father, who wished to remain anonymous, told Buzzfeed the response to his post was “overwhelmingly helpful and kind.”A few days later, HeMeYou posted an update on what he ended up doing:I started off with talking about general media with him, for instance I mentioned how awesome it was that Tim Cook (CEO of Apple) came out as being gay and I asked him what he thought about it and I was completely expecting him to give a typical teenager response like “yeah.. its good” or something like that but he actually gave me a detailed response which I absolutely loved because for the first time in a good while I’ve actually held a conversation with my son that felt really… rewarding.I also wanted to talk to him about how I’ve noticed that he’s not been acting as cheerful as he usually has and I sort of gave the cliche spiel of “I love you no matter what and I just want to see you be happy” but I didn’t get much of a response that time apart from “yeah I know..”The next day as I picked him up from school I thought I’d ask him about any crushes he has, and I wanted to make sure I didn’t say a gender when I asked him, so instead of ‘he’ or ‘she’ I used ‘they’ etc.. Here is that conversation as I remember it…Me: So, do you have a crush on anyone? Son: Uhm… no..m..maybe.. Me: Ohhh so who is the lucky person? At this point he sort of looked at me slightly confused, I’m not 100% sure why, but I’m assuming it is because I said “lucky person” rather than “lucky girl”. Son: Just someone from my french class… Me: Oh yeah… so what do you like about them? Son: Just.. stuff.. Me: Okay.. but.. like what? Son: I donno they’re just kinda funny I guess…At this point I dropped the conversation but just before I did I told him “Well, whoever it is, they should be so lucky to have you as a boyfriend..” and while I didn’t see it, I certainly felt as though he was rolling his eyes at my cheesy comments.At the dinner table the same day, while we were eating we had a couple minutes of silence, not much was heard apart from the cutlery and my son finally said “I actually wanted to tell you something in the car, but I was afraid you’d get in an accident..”I looked up from my plate and looked at him straight in the eyes… I could see he was thinking about something and all I could think of was “OMG this is it…”He said “Dad..” with a couple seconds of silence “..I’m gay”.I looked at him and couldn’t help myself from smiling, and I told him “____, you know I love you so much… right?” and I got up and gave him a huge hug.He even started to cry on my shoulder and because of that I couldn’t help myself but shed a couple tears.Concluding his post, he said: “After dinner and after he finished his homework we both lay in our pyjamas on the sofa, while I was watching the Cooking Channel and he was playing on his iPad.“I had my arm around him and he was leaning his head on my chest, and all I could think of was that I’m the happiest father on earth right now.”Anyone else weep real Jesus tears after reading this?THIS IS WHAT A TRUE FUCKING PARENT DOES. TAKE GODDAMN NOTES.It really can be this easy. -- source link