birdsy-purplefishes:hashtagnotallmen:manslator:This blog, though run by civilians, respects sex work

birdsy-purplefishes:hashtagnotallmen:manslator:This blog, though run by civilians, respects sex workers and their rights (right to control their bodies, right to work in the field of their choosing, right to not be looked down upon or condescended to due to their chosen field, etc.). Sex workers are different than, for example, sex trafficking victims, who did NOT choose to enter the field of sex work and are therefore being coerced and are not consenting.Transcript of screenshot: “I’m confused about you asking sex workers, given how they are literally coerced into sex in order to get the money they need to buy food/pay bills etc. and therefore are not consenting.”consent must be freely given in order to be valid. if you have to pay for consent, it’s not freely given. i believe that is what rageclit is referring to. there’s a reason sex workers experience such high rates of ptsd and symptoms of sexual trauma. i respect sex workers, but i cannot respect an industry that supports and commercializes sexual violence and coercion. Manslator, the idea that sex is something that people do for pleasure is incompatible with the idea that some people should experience sex as an act of service. If someone is having sex for survival or to appease someone else it doesn’t make them a bad person, but someone else taking advantage of that is doing something wrong.Your comments basically saying that sometimes non-consensual sex isn’t rape reinforce the idea that there are gray areas and people run with them and use them to justify rape culture. It may not be rape in that someone technically gave consent but it’s not “enthusiastic” when it’s done out of obligation or treated like a commodity. Please don’t conflate the two. When people are pressured into sex for reasons other than their own enjoyment it strengthens rape culture.@hashtagnotallmenWow, that sure is a giant fucking pile of whorephobic “correlation is causation” bullshit. You and every other SWEF can keep that gross trash the fuck out of our notes, thanks.Know how many sex workers I know with PTSD? Several. Know how many of them got their PTSD from doing sex work? Literally none.Yes, some sex workers get raped on the job. People who aren’t sex workers also get raped on the job. Sex workers don’t get raped on the job because sex work is inherently violent. Sex workers, like everybody else, get raped on the job because people don’t respect consent. It’s unspeakably hideous for you to equate a sex worker having consensual sex for money with a sex worker being raped. I guarantee you: any SWer who’s experienced both can tell you, in detail, the difference between the two.Sex work is “coercive” to exactly the same degree as every other form of labor. Focusing on sex work specifically instead of dismantling capitalism as a whole just makes you a whorephobic piece of shit who’s hurting the very people you claim to support.Stop saying you “respect sex workers” while speaking over them, patronizing them, and contributing to the very attitudes that increase their marginalization.@birdsy-purplefishesWho says sex always has to be something people do for pleasure? Sometimes sex is something people do to make a baby. Sometimes sex is something people do because their partners enjoy it. Sometimes sex is something people do because they’re being compensated for their time and efforts. None of these things is rape just because the participants aren’t jumping for joy about it.I don’t like having to do prep work in order to make meals. That doesn’t mean I don’t consent to chopping vegetables. I wouldn’t ever on my own choose to watch a football game. That doesn’t mean I don’t consent to watching one with a friend. I wouldn’t choose to do much of the work I get paid to do if I weren’t being paid to do it. That doesn’t mean I don’t consent to performing it.What reinforces rape culture is removing the agency of people who consent to sex for reasons that are different for the reasons you consent to sex.Since you apparently missed it the first time, I’ll say it again: Mobilizing the concept of “enthusiastic consent” to police the ways other people give consent (such as denying other people their “unenthusiastic” but genuine consent) is using it wrong. -- source link
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