alterboyx:kyraneko:“The axe forgets, but the tree remembers.”This is a huge thing ESPECIALLY with ki

alterboyx:kyraneko:“The axe forgets, but the tree remembers.”This is a huge thing ESPECIALLY with kids. To the parent, they lashed out when they were mad and forgot about it, expecting the kid to forget too. To the kid? It was a big moment that defined your relationship with your parents. Stuff my parents don’t remember doing or saying were things that to me spoke very, very loudly, that I was not safe to be open and honest with my parents.The axe forgets, but the tree remembers, indeed.“i don’t care how sick you are; clean up your fucking mess” - my dad, yelling at me for throwing up on the floor when i was 8 (6 almost 7 years ago)“wipe that stupid expression off your face or else i’ll smack it off” my dad when i was laughing so hard at a joke i was crying a bit. i was 6 (8 almost 9 years ago)“i’ll hit you when i please” my dad when i was 5, after he and my mother divorced and i asked him why he hit my mum and why he hits us, almost a decade ago“you’re too dumb for your own good and it’s a miracle that i haven’t kicked you out of the house yet” my dad on the evening of my seventh birthday because i wanted to watch spongebob instead of the informational exercise film that my dad wanted to watch (almost 8 years ago)kids remember the hatred and anger and threats. kids remember the negative things. kids remember the fear they felt.i actually cannot remember a single good thing my father said to me years ago. he did, he said kind things to me all the time, but i can’t remember a specific time simply because the fear i felt when i thought i might not have a home with my dad way overpowers anytime my dad told me good job or that he loved me.just saying. -- source link

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