dmnsqrl:#Repost @mia.mingus (@get_repost)・・・When i talk abt skills needed for transformative justice
dmnsqrl:#Repost @mia.mingus (@get_repost)・・・When i talk abt skills needed for transformative justice, i’m not only talking abt knowing how to run an intervention, or being competent in your knowledge of sexual & domestic violence, or having read/studied writings (& other media) abt TJ. All of these things are important..But just as if not more important are skills such as: being able to identify when you’re in/orienting from a trauma response; maintaining compassion &humanity for yourself &others; self reflection; being able to give &receive challenging feedback; active listening & accountable sharing; proactively & directly addressing conflict *in your own life* instead of letting it fester or escalate; being able to practice generative conflict, apologizing well, &repairing trust when it has been broken; a consistent practice of self care & healing; how to ask for help; knowing when/how to be tender/soft, & when/how to be direct/firm—in accountable/useful ways..All of these are much easier said than done &they don’t happen over night. They must be practiced until they become habit. Until they become muscle memory. Until we have practiced them so much, that they become things we don’t even have to think abt anymore. .Thank you @hannahmcmorris for naming the need for context. This quote is from Lorde’s essay, “Eye to Eye: Black Women, Hatred, and Anger,” from her book, Sister Outsider, where she is specifically speaking abt Black women. I encourage everyone, who hasn’t already, to read Sister Outsider. Here is more: “We have to consciously study how to be tender w each other until it becomes a habit because what was native has been stolen from us, the love of Black women for each other. But we can practice being gentle w each other by being gentle w that piece of ourselves that is hardest to hold… As we arm ourselves w ourselves & each other, we can stand toe to toe inside that rigorous loving & begin to speak the impossible – or what has always seemed like the impossible – to one another.“..[image of a quote from Audre Lorde that reads, “we have to consciously study how to be tender with each other until it becomes a habit.”]..#AudreLordehttps://www.instagram.com/p/Buzteq7jGjhHi8ja9ONlMGJF14s-TSWzOGuGOI0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=qgmrdxb44n0yI reserve the right of anger towards those who shamed me for cultivating an instinct of tenderness towards others, who claimed my instinct of tenderness towards /them/ excused their abuse of me -- source link