How it all started…I know a lot of people (mostly husbands) who have the hotwife fantasy are

How it all started…I know a lot of people (mostly husbands) who have the hotwife fantasy are curious about how to approach the topic. I’ll never claim to be an expert but am happy to share how my wife and I got started. Eventually I’ll share some of our hottest experiences, mistakes made along the way, and lessons learned. But for now I think it’s only appropriate to start at the beginning. My wife and I had already been together for quite a while (~8 yrs) before I even broached this topic with her. She’s always known I’m a very sexual person and my attraction to her is as strong as when we first met. I may have dropped some hints at the idea of her being with another guy over the years, but interestingly Tumblr is what really helped open up the lines of communication for us. She’s shy and sweet and up to that point had a limited sexual past. She had only been with 2 guys before me. One day we were texting and she informed me she had just completed a “solo” session while I was at work while watching some porn. I had recently found Tumblr as a convienient way to access that type of content and shared with her. We both created profiles and began to message one another with things we found hot but may have been too shy to talk about with one another. This was HUGE for us. Finally expressing our deepest desires with one another and realizing that we can be (and should be) a safe place for that expression is a surprisingly effective bonding experience. Eventually I began to share with her videos of women in a threesome situation with 2 men. At first I don’t think she was receptive. Lots of perceptions of why that is wrong, some fear of issues it could cause, among other things, were the cause of her hesitation. One concern that I’ve seen many others mention was true for us as well: was this just a way for me to open up the possibility for me to have other women? For anyone with this fantasy, you’re likely aware the clear answer to that question is NO. My desire was based in my intense love for my wife and to see her experience the most intense pleasure available to her. Once we got past many of these understandable questions about such a bold and risky fantasy, she became more and more intrigued. Eventually this led to bedroom talk during sex along with honest discussions about how we’d want it to work when we weren’t in the throes of passion. She was most comfortable starting this journey with someone we knew, so we discussed a couple of friends of ours who may fit the bill. Once we got to this point and decided who we’d really want to share this experience with, her excitement really picked up. I think being able to finally envision it with a specific person along with the comfort level and ground rules we had established enabled this excitement. This evolved into bringing more toys into the bedroom to simulate and talk about the fantasy which got us both even more eager until eventually she was all in and ready for it. Our first experience was with my best friend and it was incredible. If anyone is interested, I’ll detail that experience in my next post. -- source link

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