Throwback to warm apple cider donuts & a crispy cool day at the pumpkin patch.☕️I was thinking
Throwback to warm apple cider donuts & a crispy cool day at the pumpkin patch.☕️ I was thinking about if someone were standing, face forward, in front of me and we decide to play a game to see how many tennis balls I could catch. The first one is thrown. I catch it. No problem. Then the second one is thrown and I catch that one. Easy breezy. Same thing with the third. I’m feeling pretty good!! Now they’re being thrown at greater frequency, the game is getting harder and there’s a break in my catching streak. I catch maybe two more, but all the rest have slipped from or were completely out of reach from my hands & fallen to the ground. All the balls have been thrown. Game over. Rather than celebrate the balls I did catch, my confidence & self esteem lie in a pile with the ones I DIDN’T. How do we begin to reframe our thinking away from ignoring our successes no matter how small they are!? How do we see failure, under any circumstance, as just a lesson and/or the part of the process rather than the totality of our self worth!? Why are we conditioned to ignore our own accomplishments, blessings!? “Yes Cici!! You caught 5 tennis balls!” NOT “Aw Cici!! You didn’t catch *insert number* tennis balls!” Maybe it’s listening to your own voice acknowledging the triumph or writing down your accomplishments so that you visually see them. I don’t know. I have an unpopular opinion these days about the self movement because to me it seems to have taken, what I think, could be a detrimental turn but the flip side is how can you be a vessel for others when your own cup is empty. I’m facing one of the biggest, most heartbreaking challenges of my life RIGHT NOW. Rather than focus on the failure of it, I’m choosing to call it the greatest lesson I have ever learned so it’s actually a gift. You are not your failures. You are not your mistakes. Concede to your own self defeating voice. Hoping you’re having a good weekend so far!! (at Chicago, Illinois) https://www.instagram.com/p/CGvEnJ1nP3i/?igshid=1xiyl2xzizpyc -- source link