Stank NationAre You a Sub or a Dom?Art by me.Article of THE COLUMBIA SPECTATOR BY PER MALLOCH | MARC

Stank NationAre You a Sub or a Dom?Art by me.Article of THE COLUMBIA SPECTATOR BY PER MALLOCH | MARCH 27, 2013, 10:16 PMA dom prefers to be dominant during sex. A sub prefers to submit, i.e. to be dominated. It follows that a sub pursuing another sub, or a dom pursuing another dom, is looking for something that his love object can’t really offer. To avoid this kind of heartache, you should figure out whether you are dom or sub, and how much so. Maybe you even swing both ways, although I doubt this is even possible.What follows will clarify the concept of doms versus subs.Sexual dominance needn’t accompany other forms of dominance. The literary image of the bold politician or CEO who leads others in mighty enterprises, only to head home to be tenderly spanked by his wife, has its counterparts in reality. People who are only mildly dominant or submissive probably find themselves in such paradoxical situations more often. In other words, being submissive doesn’t make you a pansy.Being submissive is not worse than being dominant. It is what it is. To desire inequality in the bedroom has nothing to do either way with demanding social, political or economic inequities. If feminism numbers among its demands female pleasure during sex, allowing oneself to be hog-tied can, for the right person, be an act of supreme feminism.Admitting that you are submissive or dominant does not oblige you to experiment with B and D, much less S and M. Sexual power relations can be expressed in less overt ways, such as choice of sexual position, style of dirty talk, fierceness of pumping, and selection of lingerie.Dominating someone in bed does not mean being mean to them. Actually it is the nicest thing you can do if they are submissive.Being a submissive man, or a dominant woman, doesn’t mean that you’re gay, as long as you prefer to submit to women or, in the latter case, dominate men. Sexual preference in general is independent of whether one is a dom or a sub. Gay people are just more likely to be aware of both preferences, since both members of a gay couple obviously can’t subscribe to society’s stereotype of male dominance and female submissiveness. It’s harder for straight people to say things like “I wish I could go out with a man in a woman’s body” or “I feel like a lesbian in a man’s body” because they’ve been living in a mental straight-jacket.If you end up discussing these topics with your lover, I hope that your conversation eventually degenerates into freak-nasty dirty talk.So, what are you?(✿◡‿◡)-DjDontTouchTheTrim                                                                                                                                    aka-DjDt3Music Feels-Toxic Apple - Through the Night (a Death Metal Lovesong)https://youtu.be/yPo3NjZ7UmUDisturbed - You’re Mine [Official HD]https://youtu.be/vka6wPrB4E0#djdt3 #thatsstanky #chalet #heartaches #remorse#artwork #art #artist #drawing #illustration #painting #sketch #artistsoninstagram #instaart #digitalart #draw #design #contemporaryart #artoftheday #creative #artsy #artgallery #sketchbook #arts #photography #drawings #paint #fanart #watercolor #portrait #illustrator #abstractart -- source link

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