centrist707: vivalabisexualrevolution:partial-ghost-0819:Let’s start with this. “Parker, wtf is
centrist707: vivalabisexualrevolution: partial-ghost-0819: Let’s start with this. “Parker, wtf is this?” You may ask. This is something that means a lot to me. It’s a flag that is subjected to more erasure than you could imagine. It’s the pansexual flag. I guess it goes without saying that I am a pansexual male (Yaaaay!!! We’re getting to know each other). When I say the term pansexual to my peers, I get one of maybe 4 responses. There are people that reply with “you fuck pans?”. Others ask what what pansexual is. A question that I am more than happy to answer. The most hurtful of all responses I’ve gotten is “so you’re bi”. Those 3 words cut very deep. Pan or demisexual means to be attracted to someone regardless of gender. Bisexual means being attracted to two genders. From what I’ve observed with my friends that are bi, they tend to favor a gender. Some will like males more, others will prefer female. As for me, I don’t lean one way or the other (not to mention there are more genders than just male or female). Our personalities just have to work. That’s not to say that I don’t experience physical attraction. I have my preferences regarding physical attributes of someone I would like to date. I can look at a man or woman and say “wow theyre beautiful”. In that same breath, I can look at someone that doesn’t fall under that gender binary and say, that person is beautiful. I feel like I’m starting to ramble so I’ll explain it like this. Demi/Pansexuality can be summed up in 3 simple words. “Hearts. Not parts”. I think describing it like that is the best way to say it. Dont get me wrong, sex is amazing. I love sex but when it comes to choosing someone i want to share my heart with, I don’t care so much about what’s between your legs. I’ll love that person regardless of gender and that, to me, is what makes this flag so beautiful. :end transmission: full offense op, but this absolutely REEKS of biphobia. first off, the fact that you get genuinely offended that someone would dare call you bisexual? what’s up with that? why is bisexuality so fucking abhorrent to you that hearing someone call you bi is something that “cuts deep”? yikes. SECONDLY, the fact that you totally erased bisexual people with this post? shut up, you don’t know what you’re talking about. “bisexual means two” is a statement often made by pansexuals biphobes to speak over and erase bi people. you ignore our history, our activism, and our culture with that phrase. lemme just put it simply: bisexual has never been limited. bisexuality has never been binary. bisexual has never meant “only two”. small history lesson to prove my point: bisexual is reclaimed medical terminology! bisexual activists have been around for DECADES and when they were reclaiming bisexuality as an identity, they made it very loud and clear that THEIR ATTRACTION WAS IN NO WAY LIMITING OR BINARY. decades. decades!!!!!! decades of history and activism and the fact that pan people have the absolute nerve to just pretend it never happened and constantly speak over bisexuals is infuriating. it’s sickening. it’s disheartening. it’s just plain unfair. another thing— WHY the absolute fuck are we still saying “pan people like personality” to contrast it with bisexuality??? this goes RIGHT back to the “bisexuals are shallow sluts” stereotype and pansexuals just mindlessly feed into it because they’re so ~pure and good uwu~ and ~unlike those disgusting bisexuals, we like people for their hearts, not parts~. it’s also fucking rude to insinuate that anyone, bi, lesbian, straight, ANYONE who isn’t pan only cares about genitalia. newsflash, dickhead: “hearts not parts” applies to every decent human being. this term is outdated as fuck and y’all won’t stop using it. also, your little flag that means ~so much~ to you? yeah, congrats, it’s rooted in bi erasure and transphobia. YOINKS. i doubt you’re going to read this post or even care, because hey, i’m just a ~panphobic bislut~ who ~only cares about parts~, but seriously, stop speaking over bisexuals. it’s disgusting. don’t even try to defend it, and if you do, ✨ you’re a biphobe! ✨ im sick of being thrown under the bus by pan-identifying people. seriously sick of it. you dont have to call yourself pan to show youre better than the rest of the bisexual community. youre not better and youre spreading biphobic ideas. -- source link