mr-prism:Consent Masterpost (5 of 5)* Pushing Consent If you thought they were going to get any ea

mr-prism: Consent Masterpost (5 of 5)* Pushing Consent If you thought they were going to get any easier, give up. Abandon hope, all ye who enter here. Now we are officially into territory of edge play. Edge play is inherently risky, because you are playing with the potential to cause actual physical or emotional distress. You need a very high degree of trust to engage in edge play. Choose your partners carefully, you’re putting yourself into their hands. Pushing consent is the art of walking right up to the line of what someone can handle. It’s primarily found in more traditional BDSM activity, but it’s not unknown in hypnokink as well. When pushing consent, you first decide exactly what area of consent you want to push. Pain tolerance? Physical contact? Humiliation/degradation? Human furniture? Decide what you are pushing, and how you are planning to get there. Know and conform your communication signals- your go, slow down, pause, and stop signals. The object is to push the bottom to receive as much stimulation as they can stand without pushing them over. If you engage in this kind of edge play, it is critically important for you to communicate constantly and be ready to end the scene the moment the bottom signals that they’ve reached their limit. Pushing consent can be a very powerful activity shared between trusting partners. It can release incredible amounts of sensation and emotion to take that journey together and find exactly where the limit lies. Always make sure the bottom knows that they are cared for, and that the top is proud of them no matter what. Only engage in pushing consent with the informed consent of all parties. If you push someone’s consent to see where they will cry whoa or safeword without first communicating that intent to them and obtaining their support, you are an asshole. Don’t be that person.* Nonverbal ConsentAs if we weren’t getting dicey enough as it is. Nonverbal consent is exactly what it says on the tin- obtaining the consent of your partner without asking a question and getting a verbal response. Word of caution: using nonverbal consent during a scene should be done by partners that trust each other. For once, I’m not talking about bottoms trusting their tops, I’m talking explicitly about tops trusting their bottoms. Nonverbal consent is risky because they never say yes with their mouth. “Nod if you want to continue. “ “I can see in your eyes that you still want more, right?”  These are all ways that nonverbal consent is practiced, but it is serious edge play. Ris-ky. You need a crazy-high level of mutual trust and mutual understanding of each other and your limits and body reactions.Dear god, if you explore nonverbal consent, know your partner and what you are doing. You run an extremely high risk of being labeled as a consent violator if you engage in this practice with strangers. Even worse, you might push someone past the point of consent by not reading them correctly. It’s hard to play this one completely safe, but be risk-aware and keep it consensual.* Consensual Non-consentConsensual non-consent (CNC) is the hoary granddaddy of them all. CNC is when one party gives the other permission in advance to do something without obtaining more specific consent for it beforehand. Consensual non-consent is not a single thing, it is a rather wide spectrum of activities, and should always be extensively negotiated between trusting partners before engaging in anything. There really is a wide gamut of things that fall under CNC, ranging from “You can fondle me when I’m sleeping”  to “We are going to enact a rape scene. ‘Stop’ means keep going. ‘Red’ means Actually Cease What You Are Doing Immediately. I love you. Ready?”  It is a huge, complicated, involved topic to try to cover completely.I am not going to cover all of consensual non-consent here. It is complicated and important enough to get its own masterpost, one which has the potential to be even longer than the rest of this one. CNC will get its own masterpost in the future. I can’t guarantee it’ll be soon (this series of posts itself took almost a month to finish compiling and preparing), but it will come.* ConclusionIf you have actually read all the way through these posts, you have my sincerest thanks. There’s a lot of good stuff in there, things that anybody engaging in kink or hypnokink should know. From the basics of “What is consent?” to “How can I make sure I have consent if my partner is wearing a ball gag?”, I guarantee there is something for you to learn or something for you to read and say “Oh yes, that is exactly right and I need to remember that.” Read it and take something positive away from it. You will be the better for it.But maybe you don’t completely agree. I’m not the Almighty God Of All Knowledge, and I’m not always right. Maybe you think I was overly cautious. Maybe you think I didn’t go far enough. Talking about consent is always a good thing, regardless of the agreement or disagreement of the people talking. If you disagree with something I’ve said in any way or even just want to verbalize your agreement and get it out there, feel free. Reblog. Comment. Start talking. It helps us all.« Last Page Read the full Consent Masterpost Original posts to be found here. -- source link

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