daddyisasdaddydoes:THE USUAL SUSPECTS: KNOW THEIR ROLES It turns out that there are some “doms” ou
daddyisasdaddydoes: THE USUAL SUSPECTS: KNOW THEIR ROLES It turns out that there are some “doms” out there in the community using titles like “Mentor” and “Protector” to manipulate and prey upon unsuspecting littles. It is all too easy to be lulled into a false sense of security when you don’t fully understand what these titles mean, so I decided to do this little write up to help clear up any confusion. MENTORS What is a mentor? - A mentor is exactly what it sounds like - a guide. A mentor’s role is to help a new submissive to understand the great big BDSM world they are entering. A mentor is a friend, a guide, and confidant, and a teacher. If the new sub (or new dom) has questions, The Mentor is there for them. Subs can talk to their mentors freely and and rely on them to be discreet and confidential. What is a mentor not? - A mentor is NOT sexually involved with a sub. Mentors are there strictly to inform and educate. AT NO TIME will a legitimate mentor give “assignments” or attempt to dominate or engage in any form of sexual activity with a sub. Regardless of whether a sub is involved in a relationship a not, it is highly inappropriate for a mentor to step out of their role. Mentors do NOT break the confidence of the subs they are mentoring… ever PROTECTORS What are protectors? - A protector (on the internet) is someone that a sub/little/whoever can turn to if they are being harassed by someone else. It is a protector’s role to be there to step in when needed and defend their ward against any and all undesirables. What are protectors NOT? - Protectors do NOT act until asked. Protectors do NOT tell their wards who they can and cannot talk to. protectors do NOT attempt to influence their wards. Protectors DO NOT ACT UNTIL ASKED. TRAINERS What are trainers? - This is a title that has not yet been abused (as far as I know) but it seems that some foolish “doms” get trainers and mentors confused from time to time. Trainers are actual Doms who introduce new subs (or doms) to the BDSM lifestyle through direct physical D/s activity. A trainer can be someone who a sub (or dom) pays to visit and receive training, or can sometimes be brought in by a Dom to better prepare their sub to serve them. What is a trainer NOT? - While a trainer IS a Dom, a trainer is not your Dom. A trainer is their strictly to teach the sub how to act, and claims no ownership over that sub. —————— While it is widely agreed that BDSM is varied and literally what you make of it, the roles of the titles listed above are rather specific. If you are involved with anyone using the above titles and feel uncomfortable with how they act with you, read this list again carefully. They might not be who they claim to be. -- source link