hisgoodgirltreasure: sccwriting:Writing Prompt Set #80 * Has your Dom(me) given you a special nam
hisgoodgirltreasure: sccwriting: Writing Prompt Set #80 * Has your Dom(me) given you a special name? What is the story behind it? * What are your thoughts on mentoring in the BDSM community? * Are you a risk taker when it comes to relationships? “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou * He calls me “girl” and “My girl” 99% of the time, and I call Him “Sir” and occasionally “Master”. I think (though it’s just a theory) that it developed out of the fact that His spontaneously saying “good girl” one day several months into our serious relationship had such a profound impact on me that we finally, seriously, examined the D/s overtones that were developing, and started to talk about whether this dynamic was something we both consciously wanted to pursue (to which the answer was enthusiastically YES). We’ve talked about the reasons why “good girl” and “girl” are terms that I respond to so well, because He wanted to make sure He was giving me what I needed–my conclusion so far has been that it’s an effect of my patriarchal-religious upbringing and the role of mother and wife and helpmeet that I was brought up believing I would fill when I was grown. While I’m not a believer of that faith any longer, there are aspects of it that I still find very comforting and fundamental to my existence. (To that, though: while I’m happiest when serving Him, I don’t feel like I need a parental aspect to His Dominance of me. I don’t feel the need to be a little, and I don’t know that I’d feel comfortable calling Him “Daddy”–though if He wanted it, I would, of course, do so.) We both have nicknames that are not our legal names that we go by in our everyday lives, and the process of moving from using each other’s nicknames to each other’s given names marked the transition of attracted-friends to officially-acknowledged relationship for us. Moving from given names to “girl” and “Sir” exclusively marked the organic advancement of our commitment to the D/s dynamic and more understanding of the ways it affects us both. He will still call me by my given name, but only very rarely, like when He needs to get my attention if I’m spiraling into uncontrolled emotions or He wants to underscore the significance of something.* I think that mentoring is a wonderful idea! I’m not especially comfortable attending local BDSM events because I am very shy about this aspect of my life, so I’ve had to learn almost everything I know from reading about it–and I don’t mean just tumblr blogs or the 50 Shades books (if you like them, Your Kink is OK but no thank you. I’d rather be SSC). I’ve read books and blogs and everything else I could get my hands on for years, but I didn’t think I’d ever find this type of relationship so it didn’t seem to matter that I didn’t have anyone to personally learn from. There’s something about being able to ask questions in a mentoring type of relationship that is particularly useful for my learning, though, and now that I have Sir in my life I’ve needed it more. I’ve been lucky enough to find a support group for submissives on Kik, and it’s been a great help to have ladies of many varied types and levels of experience to learn from. I also have a friend locally who is a long-time experienced submissive, and I’ve talked with her in confidence a few times. * I’d have to say that I am really not a risk taker. I am exceedingly picky in how I choose my relationships, and I tend to move slowly once I make the decision to pursue something. Reblogging to answer later. -- source link