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you-cannot-shut-me-up: femsolid: iloveradfems: appropriately-inappropriate: afro-latino: 7mangoes: boootyfriedrice: what about poc? I was about to say My girl darkskinned so how Ima tell NEVER DO BREATHPLAY. EVER. Even fifteen seconds of pressure can cause cardiac arrest, and brain damage begins almost instantly after hypoxia–and is both cumulative and irreversible. Furthermore, the xyphoid bone can be shattered, the trachea and esophagus can be crushed and the voice box can be bruised beyond repair. It can also cause kidney, lung, liver and spinal damage, all of which present asymptomatically and can strike hours or days after the choking. It is a BAD idea, medically speaking, to choke anyone. It is negligent and dangerous to do it at all, and can easily be lethal. There is no such thing as a safe choke–any pressure that is strong enough to restrict breathing is strong enough to kill your partner. And that’s not hyperbole, either, that’s: -Bronze Star and Cross lifeguarding experience-CPR, St Johns Ambulance First Aid, and Black Rose BDSM first aid certifications-four years of forensic anthropology-almost a decade of kink experience-three years of full-contact martial arts speaking. I’m not just blowing smoke, but I am telling you this is the least safe, MOST dangerous thing you can do to your partner, and people do in fact die as a result. “Here’s how to ‘safely’ abuse women” “Hey, what about diversity?” What kind of dystopian hell When 22 year old Anna Florence Reed was found dead in a Swiss hotel, newspapers across Europe uncritically repeated her boyfriend’s claim – that Reed had died in a “sex game gone wrong”. An autopsy revealed she had died from suffocation. She had cuts and bruises on her face and body, as well as fractures. Her partner is still awaiting charges. According to research collected by the campaign We Can’t Consent To This, set up by Fiona Mackenzie earlier this year, Reed is estimated to be the 52nd British woman to die in a purported “sex game gone wrong”. Thirty-two men who have claimed this controversial defense have been found guilty of murder, suggesting that this defense is often deemed to be false – an excuse increasingly used to explain the violent death of a sexual partner. Fourteen cases resulted in manslaughter convictions, and five men either had charges against them dropped, not brought, or were found not guilty. Two thirds of the women and girls had been strangled. Five male victims were also killed by men, and no women have killed men or women in these circumstances in the UK. According to Mackenzie’s data, the number of men claiming that a woman has died in a sex game gone wrong in the UK has increased by 90% since 2010. Of all the cases collected by We Can’t Consent To This, 24 have taken place in the past nine years. It was the 2016 death of Natalie Connolly that first brought the term “sex game gone wrong” to national attention. She had endured 40 separate injuries, including those sustained by a blunt object, and a fractured eye socket. Her partner, John Broadhurst, claimed the injuries were from consensual “rough” sex and was convicted of manslaughter by gross negligence in December 2018. He is now serving a custodial sentence of just under four years. Broadhurst’s sentence prompted the Labor MP for Peckham and Camberwell Harriet Harman to speak out against this so-called “50 shades defense” : “we cannot have a situation where men kill women and blame them. No man will ever be accused of murder again if he can always say, ‘yes she’s injured, she wanted it’. She will never be able to say, ‘no I didn’t’ because he’s killed her and therefore she hasn’t got a voice.“ Legally, no one can consent to injury or death. This defense is not successful for men in the majority of cases, with 43 being convicted for murder. This would suggest that for many men, this defense is being used opportunistically to try and diminish their responsibility. However, if a man can convince the courts that a woman was accidentally killed during sex, then he can be convicted of manslaughter. This has been the case for six men jailed since 2010. These include 20-year old Chloe Miazek. Two hours after meeting 32-year old Mark Bruce, she’d been strangled to death in his flat. He claimed it was an accident, although he accepted that he did not get Miazek’s consent to choke her. He was convicted of culpable homicide (the equivalent of manslaughter in Scottish law), and sentenced for six years. Then there was Hannah Pearson, aged 16, who was killed in 2016 by James Morton. The court found that Morton was “obsessed with strangulation” and watched strangulation pornography. He claimed that he began to “lightly strangle” Pearson and, because she did not object, he strangled her more forcefully. He was convicted of manslaughter and sentenced to 12 years. In 2011, 23 year old Anna Banks was killed by her “obsessive” boyfriend Daniel Lancaster. She was found 24 hours after her death with “dried blood on her face” having been strangled. Lancaster claimed that Banks “enjoyed being throttled during intercourse” and was sentenced to four years for manslaughter as “part of a sex game gone wrong.” Broadhurst and at least three other men using the “50 Shades” defense have been convicted of “manslaughter by gross negligence” – where a person has failed in a duty of care that has led to another’s death. Mackenzie believes this sets a worrying precedent. “By claiming that the act that led to the person’s death is consensual, it’s then not treated as unlawful,” she explained. “It makes it okay, for example, to hold a knife to a woman’s throat and cut her if you can then convince the judge that it was consensual and not an unlawful act that could be prosecuted.” For Mackenzie, one explanation for the increased use of the 50 Shades defense is that these cases are attracting more and more media reports, and therefore more and more men know they can claim “sex game gone wrong” as part of their defense. There is also an argument to be made that cultural changes rather than legal changes are having an influence. For example, BDSM is becoming more mainstream, and more couples outside of the official community are experimenting with practices once confined to fetish clubs. This could be contributing to the rise in deaths – and the increasing acceptability of the 50 Shades defense. Karen Ingala-Smith suggests another cultural influence: the mainstreaming of aggression in sex, and violent pornography. She told me the rise of the 50 Shades defense could relate to the “increased use of violent and degrading porn, and its normalization” that leads to both women and girls feeling coerced into consenting to potentially violent sex acts by their partners. Wistrich agrees, based on anecdotal conversations going on among women. “There’s a normalization of violent porn and women feel compelled to participate in it. Obviously some people freely engage in S&M, but some feel compelled to do it rather than volunteer to do it. They see it as what they have to do. I guess the normalization of violent porn encourages people to participate in more and more dangerous type of sex. It gives men permission to do certain things to women, and because it’s normalized it makes it harder for women to refuse.” Mackenzie also believes that the normalization of violence in pornography could be a factor. She has heard from women who have been “shamed” for being “boring” if they don’t accept strangulation as part of sex, and that increasingly “for men the expectation is that women will say yes to it. For women the expectation is that they can’t say no to it, so they go along with it.” Mackenzie is also collecting data on men using the sex game gone wrong defense in cases of injury to women. “Since 2010 there’s been a humongous increase in the numbers of women being injured and the man has claimed it’s a sex game gone wrong,” she explained. “Women go through the court process and the men often are found not guilty or receive a tiny sentence because they are able to convince the judge and jury and prosecutors that this was an accident.” Part of the issue, she believes, is victim blaming. “I am almost certain that there is a view that the woman are responsible for what killed them and asked for it to be done. That is really scary.” - Why are so many women dying in sex games gone wrong? - Sian Norris I like how the cutesy infographic uses gender neutral language, but the person being strangled is still obviously a woman. -- source link