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siryouarebeingmocked: amarretto-cowboy: celticpyro: eeveelutionsforequality: someoneintheshadow446: Apparently this isn’t a bad stereotype from sitcoms and that real women who do this exist. It’s not just women, I’ve dated women and guys who do this. I’m not the kind of person who “fights for” anybody - if they say that they’re leaving, of course I’ll ask why and talk it through with them, but I’m not going to buy a bouquet and appear at their door at 3am to try to get something from them that they said they didn’t want to give. The amount of times that I’ve heard “If you really loved me, you’d fight for me.” and I’ve been like “Well, if I really respected you and cared for you then I’d want you to be happy, rather than wanting you to do whatever it is that I want you to do.” and they come out with “So, what, you don’t want to be with me?” and I’m like “It’s not about what I want. If I wanted somebody’s watch and they didn’t want to give me the watch, I wouldn’t just take the watch. This is no different.” and then they push and push like “Just tell me that you want to be with me and I’ll stay.” and I’m like “I’m not going to do that, I want you to do what will make you happy.” and then I get called a heartless psychopath who never loved them and will never love anybody… so that’s fun. ~ Vape Just…don’t do this. This is bad. Communicate clearly, some people will think you actually mean what you say and others are struggling with social skills enough. If you want to stay, stay. Don’t say ‘no’ and expect someone to not respect your answer. Heck, why would you WANT someone to not respect your boundaries? Stuff like this ruins the legitimacy of ‘No means no’ and #MeToo. There was a girl I was in love with who pulled this. When I kept trying, she labeled me a “creepy clingy stalker” and blocked my number. I moved on. Ended up getting back with an ex and got married. 2 years after she blocks my number she hits up a mutual friend to see if I’m single or not and then goes ballistic to find out I’m married. Later, she gives me shit for it and asks why I didn’t fight for her. Actual argument verbatim Me: WTF did you want me to do!? You called me a stalker! Her: I was playing hard to get! Me: you blocked my number, what was I supposed to do!? You’re an idiot for playing games. If you wanted me all you had to do was say yes Her: No. You’re the idiot. A block only lasts 3 months. You should’ve hit me up when the block was over. Me: you can’t be serious Her: I am. Why didn’t you wait for me? Me: I’m happily married now. Her: Well you can get divorced…. Me: Bye. Yeah, you dodged a bullet. These people sound a lot like manipulative abusers. Or drama addicts. Or both. Or maybe they just want to be wanted. They like having the power to make people chase em. > The amount of times that I’ve heard “If you really loved me, you’d fight for me.” “If you were really ready for a healthy relationship, you wouldn’t be trying to passive-aggresss me. Good day, ma'am.”“But-”“I said GOOD DAY!” -- source link
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