lovefreedompowerlove: This article at Cosmopolitan is actually very interesting:These hetero flexibl
lovefreedompowerlove: This article at Cosmopolitan is actually very interesting:These hetero flexible women say they want long-term romantic relationships with men but are consistently drawn to women purely for sex, whether a girlfriends-with-benefits scenario or a Sapphic sidepiece hidden from their boyfriend or husband.“It’s a huge phenomenon,” says Chelsea Reynolds, who researches gender and sexuality in mass media as a doctoral student at the University of Minnesota School of Journalism and Communication. In a pilot study, she analyzed (or “expertly lurked,” as she calls it) the Women Seeking Women section of Craigslist in 10 U.S. cities, including San Francisco; Chicago; Boston; Louisville, Kentucky; and Lubbock, Texas. Over a three-day period, she analyzed more than 400 such ads. Based on that data, she estimates that, over the course of a year, there are hundreds of thousands of ads posted online from women who “self-identify as straight, who want relationships with guys, but also enjoy a woman’s body and affection here and there.”Why do women like this “self-identify as straight”? Internalized homophobia.Many women have a conflict between their sexuality and their identity because as girls growing up we are socialized to seek male approval and to fear being labeled “lesbians.” The girl who internalizes society’s heteronormative values will grow up to be a woman who struggles to understand and accept her natural sexuality. She may love being with women, but the “lesbian” label scares her. When a woman denies that her relationships with women make her gay, what she is saying is, “I’m not one of them. I’m not an ugly man-hating lesbian. Men like me and I like men, I just date other women sometimes, but that doesn’t mean I’m gay.” She wants to keep the social and economic benefits of heterosexual privilege, no matter how much she enjoys being with women. Some of this shit is straight up offensive to the lesbian community, though. Most of these women are literally talking about using us specifically for “no strings sex” where they’re either cheating with women or sleeping with them while they try to find a boyfriend. Fucking gross. Ps. If you fuck a woman, you are not “100 percent straight”. Jesus Christ it took me a long time to come out (being raised southern Baptist with a minister father didn’t help the fear of it) but I NEVER would have used women like this. This all- upsets me. Selfish assholes the lot of them. Being raised that way does not make you a homophobic asshole, sorry. -- source link