puttingherinhistory:This is something I’ve been thinking about, how much is restricting or outlawing

puttingherinhistory:This is something I’ve been thinking about, how much is restricting or outlawing abortion going to contribute to child abuse and child neglect? If someone doesn’t even want to be a parent in the first place, or maybe they do want to be a parent someday but they’re not ready mentally or emotionally for such an extremely high level of responsibility and commitment, and only goes through with having a child because of no access to contraceptives or abortion, how likely is it that they’re going to be resentful about being a parent, and take out that resentment on the kid?Also, if you think someone should be denied access to abortion from not using contraceptives, or not using them properly, and “that’s what they get for being irresponsible” (how fucked up it is to use children as a punishment for irresponsibility aside) why would you want them to have the responsibility of raising and caring for a child then? Raising a child is a fuuuuuck ton of responsibility, so if not using proper contraceptives makes them too irresponsible for an abortion then why should the alternative be the very demanding and full of responsibilities job of parenting? Even pregnancy takes a lot of responsibility, you really gotta watch what you eat, drink, and do, while making sure you’re regularly going to the doctor for checkups during the pregnancy. Even legalizing abortion, but still stigmatizing abortion and adoption is going to lead to resented children which leads to abused and neglected children. I’ve known and known of women who wound up with an unwanted pregnancy, and only went through with the pregnancy because they felt too guilty about “murdering a helpless unborn infant” and didn’t consider adoption because “it would be too cruel to hand over my helpless infant to strangers” and they ended up going through with raising a child they didn’t actually fully want and didn’t feel ready for, which lead to them being a neglectful and/or outright abusive parent, because they’d been brainwashed by social norms into believing that terminating a non-sentient clump of cells or adopting out a baby to loving parents who really genuinely want to be parents is somehow more cruel than putting a child through 18+ years of feeling like an unwanted accident. Don’t get me wrong, women should have just as much bodily autonomy over denying an abortion as they should with having access to one, but we need to get rid of the social stigma that guilt trips women into keeping a pregnancy they don’t fully want or feel prepared for, and even if they are completely against abortion at least de-stigmatize adoption as a fully legitimate option so they can be raised by loving LGBT parents, or infertile parents, or even parents capable of having their own bio kids who just prefer adoption. Don’t just legalize abortion, completely and fully de-stigmatize abortion and adoption. I want a world where children are only raised by parents who 110% want them and are 110% ready for the responsibility and commitment. Imagine how much better and healthier our world would be if all children grew up 110% wanted and planned for and feeling fully loved and wanted by their parents. Think about how much that would cut down rates of child neglect and child abuse. -- source link

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