Key sentence: “But! If I’m out later with my friends and I say "I fucked that slut
Key sentence: “But! If I’m out later with my friends and I say "I fucked that slut Becky tonight?” That’s not cool because Becky did not give her consent for me to go around talking about her like that.”It would be one thing to say “…because I’m a gentleman.” But “gentleman” and four quarters only gives you a dollar. Even saying “because what goes on in the bedroom stays in the bedroom” could still be small-p patriarchal “protecting the little lady’s reputation.”But saying “Becky did not give her consent…” acknowledges her as an autonomous person, partner, friend. Acknowledges her by name and not just by category. Acknowledges that his D/s relationship with Becky doesn’t supercede his relationship to her as a fellow… well… citizen. Acknowledges that Becky has a say. And he acknowledges that what she might say really fucking matters! That even if she wasn’t his “main squeeze” she’d still matter.However you want to categorize that that’s just awesome. -- source link