Fetish and Kink and satisfactionSo years ago I stumbled across a forum for hairless fetishists. The
Fetish and Kink and satisfactionSo years ago I stumbled across a forum for hairless fetishists. The movie The Matrix had come out recently and the fetishists were all abuzz over the scene where Keanu Reeves “emerges” from his pod. Reeves evidently did have all his hair removed for the scene. This was the cause of all the excitement.I remember one participant, though, just basically barfing over the whole thing and mocking all the others. And why might you ask?Because he’d read that Reeves still had his eyelashes. So it was totally bogus, and a sellout, and a complete and utter turnoff. And anyone who said otherwise was a total phony. If he had eyelashes then Reeves, you see, wasn’t actually hairless at all!You can imagine how his partner, if any, felt about the degree of accommodation required to satisfy him!And that’s the thing about fetishes. When you’ve got a fetish for something it’s really tough if you keep not getting exactly or as much of your fetish as you want. Or maybe need. It’s frustrating to say the least. For you. For your partners. Even (as on the hairless fetish site) for your fellow fetishists!Imagine trying to be a sub for a dom who can never get quite enough obedience, anticipation, service, whatever to really satisfy their kink. Maybe there was that one time everything went perfectly for them and it was so great and so satisfying and why can’t their sub do that every time?And imagine trying to be a dom or Daddy for a sub who can never get quite enough domination, enough rules, enough consequences or maybe the right kind of consequences?Man, that’s just got to be murder for them. And really, really, really hard for their partners too.One of the lesser-known Murphy’s Laws (there really was a Murphy and he really did come up with a whole list of no-win-situation laws) was “never go to bed with someone crazier than yourself.” This was a classic because, of course, no two people are the same amount of “crazy,” in all the myriad dimensions two or more human beings can be crazy in.Relationships happen between human beings, not fairy tales, not porn, not fetish forums, not Manga, not fan fic or slash. No matter what our relationship, no matter what our agreements, no matter how deep or committed or kinky, our partners are there with us, not simply for us. -- source link