shades-of-grayro:This is a screenshot of what is likely the first use of the word aromantic as we
shades-of-grayro: This is a screenshot of what is likely the first use of the word aromantic as we use it today. I think it is interesting that the person coining it here does not identify as asexual, though this is on Haven for the Human Amoeba, the first asexual community that was the precursor to AVEN. Here is the link, but note that you need a yahoo account and to join the community in order to actually see the post. [ID: The header is an image of two people arm-in-arm on a beach, with the text: “Haven for the Human Amoeba: A place for independent, asexual men and women.” Below is a post by maxnova100 dated April 26, 2002 with the text: It’s quite disheartening to see friends of mine sacrifice what was once important to them (friends, pets, work, hobbies) for the sake of trasient “relationships.” Now, it’s understandable that people make such sacrifices for spouses and children, but those who throw aside things that once defined their lives to make time for a fling that they know won’t last more than a month, that to me is incomprehensible. As such, I’d have to say that I’m not so much asexual (in that I have some sex drive, though probably much less than what’s “normal” for someone my age) as averse to having “romantic” relationships. They take up too much time and emotional energy (I’ve always felt emotionally drained and tired after what few “dates” I’ve been on) and subtract away from the things I really value in life. The concept of putting my hobbies, work, and avocational interests on the backburner for the sake of keeping a girlfriend entertained seems about as appealing to me as having a 100 pound ball and chain around my ankles. Nor is this due to being a “loner,” as I enjoy the company of all types of people as friends and casual acquaintances. What would be an appropriate term for somebody who is not quite asexual but who dreads the concept of being in a “relationship?” Aromantic (LOL)? End image description] -- source link