artededucator:meloetta:makebelievewithme:fatgirlopinions:Absolutely mei used to be just li
artededucator: meloetta: makebelievewithme: fatgirlopinions: Absolutely me i used to be just like this but once i got into a serious relationship, i didnt wanna show my body off for just anybody. it wasnt that he wouldnt let me its that i respected him enough to not dress a certain way. and now that im entering a marriage with him, i certainly wouldnt wear anything that would give anyone any idea that i am less than married. i guess its a maturity thing So what exactly is an outfit that says “married” vs “not married”? A low cut top? Short shorts? A bikini? 1- A wedding ring says you’re married. 2- who cares what other people think? Guys don’t care anyway they try to hit on women if they’re married or not. No matter how they’re dressed. Rape happens no matter how someone is dressed. Someone could be dressed super conservatively and that doesn’t mean they’re married or in a relationship, that just means that’s how they like to dress. I just find it problematic when people say they’re dressing a certain way “for their boyfriend/husband” or “out of respect for them”, because to me, it kind of perpetuates the idea that other men can’t keep their eyes and hands to themselves, and a “no” only means something if the woman is taken. (But to some men this is just seen as a challenge.) Really, what else is “showing respect to your husband” supposed to mean? To me that means you don’t want other men to look at you. But when I get dressed I dress for myself, I don’t care about other people. Now, you always have to be presentable/appropriate at work and other certain places, but I feel like if you’re out with your friends for ladies night, go ahead and wear that low cut top if you feel like it! Wear a shorter dress! Rock it! Women need to feel good in their bodies anyway and shouldn’t feel shamed or hidden because they are married. Are you never going to wear a bathing suit again out of “respect” for your husband? Your body is not something to be ashamed of. I’ll say it again. YOUR BODY IS NOT SOMETHING TO BE ASHAMED OF. Now, IF you just want to dress conservatively because that’s the way you like to dress– GO FOR IT. Personally, I’m more of that nature myself! The only problem I find in this statement is the “doing it out of respect for my husband”. If you always cover yourself up, go girl. But don’t do it for a man. Don’t do it out of “respect” for a man or marriage. -- source link