femdomstyle:(continued from) … so, I argued that devsex is femdom light, and that we don’t need a
femdomstyle: (continued from) … so, I argued that devsex is femdom light, and that we don’t need a new name for that. However … that’s theory. In practice, one may well ask whether this light variety is really enough for us, malesubs. I, for one, would miss a thorough spanking now and then. And I suppose the devsex blogger would not like to give up his fancy to exhibit his submission in public and include third parties. Which is clearly not part of the basic package. We more often than not fantasize over things that are outside the comfort zone of our partners. And we better talk about it, or we will soon be found directing from below. Devsex, as the basic femdom script, may be a good way for some, or many, to bring their kink into a real relation. Within mutually accepted boundaries: lesser but better, as Lenin said. But there is also a real danger that femdom is smuggled in under false pretenses, and without agreed limits. And one more thing. Devsex is defined as a lifestyle, but in our blogger’s light hearted descriptions it sometimes seems play. The difference is all important. I could live within the boundaries of devsex as a lifestyle, but if it were a bedroom play I would feel degraded. On the other hand: your partner might be OK with some tougher scenario’s, as long as it would be considered a game. -- source link