forbiddenseason:gaygothur:lightsabergay:gaygothur:can someone explain to me how friendship isn’t alr
forbiddenseason:gaygothur:lightsabergay:gaygothur:can someone explain to me how friendship isn’t already normalized Because it’s not friendship??? Holy shit. Platonic relationships are different than just friendships. I’m not sure if I’m aro so I don’t want to say too much about it, but I wouldn’t tell just a friend the same shit I do somebody I’m in a platonic relationship. I don’t just go up to any friend and talk about super personal shit or hold hands and cuddle with somebody who I’m just friends with. That’s a bit deeper than just friends. This post is both arophobic, and shitty. Like. Maybe try looking up the definition of platonic or talking to an arospec person for once? Thanks. I mean….. I do actually do that stuff with people I’m just friends with so……………..They’re doing a bad job describing the different type of emotional intimacy in a quasiplatonic/queerplatonic relationships. A lot of people are bad at it and it took me a long time to stop making fun of the idea because of it. Here’s better examples:You wouldn’t adopt children with someone you’re just friends with. You wouldn’t permanently live together with someone you’re just friends with. You wouldn’t spend your life as one would do with a husband or wife, with someone you’re just friends with. There are more examples but hopefully you get the idea just with those! That’s what it took for me to understand!It’s a different type of intimacy that excludes the romantic feelings but puts forth more than friendship. What this person is probably trying to say is to normalize diverging from the standard path of spending your life trying to find love and instead allowing others to do these sorts of things without romantic love! -- source link