geniusbee:It’s Asexual Awareness week and so I thought I’d finally post this guest comic I did a las
geniusbee:It’s Asexual Awareness week and so I thought I’d finally post this guest comic I did a last year for Oh Joy Sex Toy (warning: the link is NSFW). To be honest, “ace discourse” on this website exhausts me, so I wasn’t going to post this. But I decided I wanted to just get something off my chest. I spent the majority of my life thinking there was something seriously wrong with me. And learning about Asexuality not only freed me (somewhat) from that, it also freed me from compulsory heterosexuality. See, I assumed because I wasn’t sexually attracted to women, I had to be straight. Nevermind that I wasn’t sexually attracted to ANYONE, compulsory heterosexuality had convinced me that I just had to “wait for the right guy” or some bullshit. Finding out I was ace allowed me to THEN make the realization that I wasn’t straight. But it didn’t happen right away.Sexuality and orientation are complicated, multilayered, confusing. I think it’s important to acknowledge that cishet ace struggles and experiences are not comparable to those of LGBT folks. They have their own hurdles certainly, but the institutional oppression of LGBT people is much more severe and blatant. I do not think that is up for debate. But I do think it is also important to acknowledge that when society is enforcing heterosexuality, it can be extremely difficult to unpack every aspect of one’s orientation at once. This goes for every LGBTQIA+ person. We all have to undergo a process of figuring ourselves out, and it is rough. So I really think having awareness and resources and outreach about Asexuality is hugely important within the LGBT community, because LGBT folks may not realize that asexuality is part of that identity they’re figuring out, and that can be a major stumbling block. Anyhoo that’s my 2 cents. To all my aces and especially my LGBT aces - you are not broken, and you don’t have to be ashamed of any part of your identity <3 -- source link