oranges8hands:It’s good advice, it’s very in-character advice, but I’m re-watching 8.15 and I hear O
oranges8hands:It’s good advice, it’s very in-character advice, but I’m re-watching 8.15 and I hear Owen say “how about you stop thinking that you’re the sun, and that I revolve around you“ and I remember the context of this. There are a lot of reasons why Cristina is my favorite character on Grey’s and one of my favorite characters ever, but this, this storyline where she didn’t want to be a mother and at the end of her character development, her arc, she still did not want to be a mother, this is the one that sticks with me now and forever. Meredith slowly changed into someone who wanted to be a mom and Arizona got pushed into being a mom and Miranda and Callie and April wanted to be moms and some of the others never got a chance to be moms but Cristina, Cristina did not want to be a mom, not through two pregnancies, not through a husband trying to pressure her into it, not through friends having kids and society always saying you should, and in the end she wasn’t a mom. You cannot compromise on being a parent, Cristina told Owen, and she could not be a mother and do what she needed to do for herself, no matter how much he wanted a kid. I really don’t have words for how important, how rare, her storyline is. This advice she tells Meredith, it was hard won, it was months (years) of being made to feel shitty for the only choice she could make for herself, it was a line she drew and didn’t let anyone push her over. You are the sun, what you need matters, and this is good advice for any woman who gives parts of herself up because she is in love and that is what women are taught to do, but specifically: you don’t have to be a mother, and you are not wrong for that. I really came to love her character and it was hard in the beginning. What I really loved about her was that she admitted that of COURSE if she had a child she would love it and care for it (we even see evidence of that in the speculative flash foward and when she interacts with Meredith’s kids, she’s very capable of liking or even loving them) but there is a large difference in a mom who wants kids and loves her kids and a mom who never wanted kids but loves them despite that. It would poison them both and in the end it would have been bad for EVERYONE and I really loved that they covered that. On the other hand no one ever really countered the “of course you should want kids” line which came out once or twice, the argument being that nature set up this continuum and therefore nature should mean everyone wants kids. Except that in the modern age, we routinely get into a tin cylinder and trick gravity with air pressure and fancy wedged wings into letting us fly into the air and I don’t see no humans with feathers on their backs. So nature is one thing, but let’s be real, our lives have moved past “we need to do these things to survive” and into more individual choices because we do NOT all need to do those things to survive anymore.Summation: I really loved Christina’s arc. I really did and they finished it off really well. And not everything was perfect and happy. I liked that her and Owen’s love story wasn’t perfect. -- source link
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