aes-discourse: actually it tends to go likecishet ace: i was abused for not wanting to have sex an
aes-discourse: actually it tends to go like cishet ace: i was abused for not wanting to have sex and that makes me oppressed n therefore part of the lgbt community exclusionist: it doesn’t because it’s from a systematically upheld concept like misogyny/toxic masculinity and not nonexistent aphobia and also ur still cishet so ur not lgbt cishet ace: wow!! u don’t care about my abuse at all!!! gaslighting abusive fuck go choke :)))) Do you have a source for this conversation? Or are you just making it up to further your (rather gross) point?Nobody is saying “I was abused so I’m a part of the lgbt community”. Absolutely nobody, so unless you can show me proof of someone saying that, I’m going to believe that you’re just making that up for no apparent reason. If someone says “I told my partner I didn’t want to have sex with them, and they got angry/frustrated and made me have sex with them despite me not wanting it” or anything along those lines, that is rape. And the reason for the rape is not misogyny/toxic masculinity. The main reason would be “I didn’t want sex and my partner felt like I owed it to them, and they raped/abused/assaulted me”. If someone says “this is the reason I was abused”, you have NO right to try and tell them they’re wrong. You have NO right to come up and say “actually, I know more about your abuse than you do, and you’re wrong”. It’s disgusting. I literally cannot understand why you would feel the need to directly speak over an abuse/rape victim just because you think you know their situation better than them. So yes, as long as you continue to speak over victims/survivors, you’re showing you don’t care about them at all. -- source link
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