asexual-emily-dickinson:nakedmonkey: Deborah Vance’s totally normal totally straight obsession fasci
asexual-emily-dickinson:nakedmonkey: Deborah Vance’s totally normal totally straight obsession fascination with Ava’s hands I just wanna say, since a mutual posted about how this was toxic and has since deleted it.This is about as funny as big nose jokes. This isn’t funny. I hope none of you think poking a big insecurity is an acceptable way of flirting and hope the (probably cishet male) script writers this who think this is funny go straight to hell.And all you girls who think this is romantic need some serious introspection. I see and hear and respect what you’re saying. I also want to share my point of view on this and I feel that there’s more to this story than it appears on the gifset.If you’ve seen the show you’ll know that this is the way Ava and Deborah communicate on both sides. Yes, it does look degrading and toxic, but that’s literally what the show is about: two women who are very, very flawed, to say the least. Both of them have gone through trauma. It’s no excuse to be a dick to others, but that’s exactly what the writers intended with these series: they’re showing us really unhealthy people who have been that way all throughout their lives. But then they find each other and something slowly starts to shift in their perception of the world and other people around them. So what we see in these series is the process of their progress in both psychological and emotional sense.Deborah’s comments about Ava’s hands are toxic if we take it out of context, I agree. But they’re supposed to be, because that is literally the whole show. Deborah making that kind of comment is a sort of defense mechanism. She’s been fucked over so many times in her life that whenever someone tries to lean in, she shoots them off. And she does so by making these kinds of comments and pretending it’s comedy, because she’s scared. It’s fucked up, but that is what the story’s about.As for the people who think this is romantic (myself included): I don’t think the tags on Tumblr posts should be taken that seriously. At least I’m speaking for me. “Omg this is so gay, they’re in love” literally means that I’m gay and I just want to fangirl, ya feel me? It definitely doesn’t mean I encourage toxic behavior. To me Tumblr has always been the safest place, because there’s people who are not only very intellectual and conscious of today’s processes, but they can also be very goofy and very, oh so very gay. And that’s something that I feel is needed during such a dramatic time that we all experience today. -- source link
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