the-quiet-dominant:beautflstranger:With a certain film coming out next February, I think that a
the-quiet-dominant: beautflstranger: With a certain film coming out next February, I think that a lot of people will be influenced to try BDSM. Men might find themselves thinking that all which is needed is a certain posture, voice, and cat in their hand ( and by ‘cat’ ..i don’t mean the fuzzy ones) Women might think that all one needs to do is submit to any of his whims. And that is exactly where BDSM will be mishandled, misplaced, mistaken and misunderstood. The film and book are fictional characters. If you look to adopt any of those mannerisms, you will be role playing or acting. A suit and tie, a certain voice and words..don’t make a Dominant. Any more than a woman who kneels and says ‘yes sir’ and ‘yes master’ is a submissive. BDSM is not a game. It’s a life choice. If Dominance is truly your very core. It will be how you approach everything you touch and every facet of your world. How you awaken each morning, your thoughts throughout the day, and how you go to be bed each night. It will be as much a part of you, as breathing..and as natural. It’s not to say that you might not discover something about yourself from the film or the book. But ultimately you have to be who you are. I have a hunch that the film will spawn quite a few ‘Christians’..who really aren’t. Please don’t become that and role play it, because she expects you to, or because you think it’s the cool and chic thing to do. If it’s not your drive..then it’s best to let it go. The flip side will be all the wannabe ‘Anastasias’ No one is going to buy you a car, fill your closet with Neiman Marcus, fall head over heels in love with you, take you on exotic vacations in the course of one month. That’s not a submissive. If the book or film awakens something in you..then that’s the good part. So many of us from the last century identified with 9 1/2 Weeks. Or recognized something about ourselves from the characters. 9 1/2 Weeks is a more accurate portrayal of a relationship that includes aspects of BDSM. So if it does light up something in you..that little spark with which you do identify..then start on your journey…by asking questions. Read everything you can get your hands on..talk to people. Remember that no one has all the answers. You eventually will find the path which works for you. And find someone with whom you can have a deeply fulfilling relationship with. BDSM is a life long learning process. With each relationship, and with each passing year, you will learn even more about yourself and your journey. Let it evolve slowly. Walk before you run. ~ beautflstranger Such wise words eloquently put. Prepare yourself friends, for the influx of people who need guidance to help them determine of this life, the real D/s life, is for them. We all have our kinks we want to celebrate, the erotic and pornographic we like to reblog, those personal messages we want to her across. But please, let’s all spare a little space on our blogs for guiding those newest to our world on what it is, and what it isn’t. ~QD -- source link