atlinmerrick:opiumismyopium:isitandwonder:johnlockismyreligion:atlinmerrick:Who WinsWhen You’re Kink
atlinmerrick:opiumismyopium:isitandwonder:johnlockismyreligion:atlinmerrick:Who WinsWhen You’re Kink Shamed?It took a long time to get the most recent issue of Spark out.I asked people to share their kinks via anon, Twitter, to mypersonal email, by carrier pigeon if necessary. Yet, unlike other Spark issues, a surprising numbercontacted me personally not with articles, but to say:‘I can’t write about kinks for the newsletter. I feel ashamed.’These weren’t messages saying ‘I’m a teacher and so can’twrite this sort of stuff,’ these were people going on to say they felt thathaving kinky desires and voicing them was wrong. I just…who made you feel like that? Who made you feel likeyour wonderful, earthy, human sexuality is wrong?Whobenefits from you feeling like that?You know who does. Their desires are all over the media,their kinks are catered to with magazines and movies titled Barely Legal, Rope Slave, Slutty Maid.But your sexuality? From the timeyou’re a girl your desires are seen as lesser, mockable, or worse:non-existent.Sweet darlin’, fuck thatnoise. Here’s what I wish: I wish that you allow fandom and fic tohelp you relish your kinks. Take them back. Take them, they’re yours, they’revalid, they’re amazing.No one has a right to laugh at them, think themsecond-place, to prioritise their sexualwants over yours.Forget what the media tells you—that women don’t sexually get,they only give—instead, indulge your kinks, coddle them, fuckin’ name the glorious things. By that I meansay what they are at least to yourself, maybe to a friend, perhaps anon on somefandom group? Whatever, wherever, give your desires existence, priority.Your favourite kinks to think about, write, read are…………what?Whatever you answered? It’s right. Your desires are never wrong, not so long as there’sconsent. And in the sanctity of your fertile imagination even consent isn’tnecessary because no one gets hurt insideyour head.The online Puritans, who tell you even thinking about something like non-con is wrong? They’re wrong.When they say just thinking about something means you’re more likely to do it ask yourselfthis: How many actors have gone on to become serial killers?Because, despite a mind-boggling number of films about suchpeople, no actor playing one has ever gone on to, you know, serial kill people.Despite thinking a lot about it.So when the new Puritans try to make you feel bad for what you desire? It’s they who’re creatingreal world pain. Your frisky imagination? It ain’t affecting no one. So letthat thing be naked, free, and filthy.Daydream every sweaty, slick scenario that pleases you. Allthe Omegaverse and lactation kink, all the rimming and comeplay, all of it. And know, absolutely know you’re not alone, in fandom you’resurrounded by glorious kinky company.Fandom has given me so, so much, not least of which is alegion kinks. I think half came from reading and writing fic, the other halfjust appeared one day—possibly via carrier pigeon.Sherlock Holmes in heels might be the first I giddily wroteabout, then I went mad for John nursing on Sherlock, for somnophilia sex, forHolmescest, for the riding crop. Along came Star Wars, and suddenly therewasn’t enough Kylo Ren or General Hux in lingerie, never enough pet play, mpreg,oviposition, or tentacles.Reading or writing kinky stories where delicious men do kinkythings with one another’s bodies brings ourbodies joy.And sweetheart there ain’t nothing, nothing, fucking nothing wrong with that.Atlin hasflown so vigourously off this handle she may now be in space. If you want togive a bit of Ko-Fi kindness to Atlin or Spark,that’d be lovely.(Pic: Njoy G-spot massager)A very interesting reading: kinks or sexual preference shouldn’t be shamed. Nobody has the right to make you feel bad or say you that you’re “problematic” if you like some kinks!There’s a lot of interesting stuff going on today…Please indulge me @atlinmerrick on a bit of direction on where to find Spark? Is it a webzine? Fanfic directory? Do you take anon/nom de plume contributions?It’s hard to see in the post but I do link to Spark in the first line. Here it is in a more clickable format:Spark writing newsletterYou can subscribe up at the top or see past newsletters (including today’s) and should you want to write writerly thoughts for it we would have an excite!To be frank I’m even getting tired of the concept of something being a ‘kink’ altogether. The notion that only super plain missionary (or maybe very gentle doggie) is ‘default sex’ and any additional creativity or variety is a deviation is just another gross byproduct of sex negativity in general.Humans are acutely curious creatures who thrive on new experiences and stimulation. We hurl ourselves out of airplanes, eat all sorts of intensely bitter, spicy and inebriating foods, endure injury and pain for the sake of sports and entertainment routinely. We are kinky in everything we do. That is normal. Sex is no different, but we’re still drilled to believe it is a shameful activity that must be sanitized down to its weakest expression to be acceptable. Make do with the fear of sex itself and there won’t be a need for kink; it’s all just sex. -- source link
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