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silentyetreserved:a-very-angry-queer:thebibliosphere:nofuckinwaycupid:the-panic-button-collector:dimespin:“Why do you beat yourself up so much over little mistakes?”This is such a good illustration of emotional abuseThis is why you shouldn’t make fun of people for over-apologizing. I will always remember after I moved in with husband for the first time, and I dropped a mug and it shattered. I went into a terrified panic, waiting for a rebuke that never came. And in some ways that was worse because it felt like I was being ignored and that was something else I dreaded too, because my god, you spend your life dancing on a knife edge between dreading attention and craving it, cutting your feet to ribbons to keep up with a tune you’re not allowed to learn because it’s always changing.It took a very long time for me to trust that his affection wasn’t a weapon in disguise, that no, it really didn’t matter. Because a broken mug is just a broken mug and not a sign of my inherent lack of worth.This is too damn relatable.Just had one of these pop up last weekend, unfortunately. Sometimes you don’t realize how abusive a situation was until you’re long gone from it. -- source link