dirtydaddythings:There have been a lot of asks and messages lately on this same topic so I will ta
dirtydaddythings: There have been a lot of asks and messages lately on this same topic so I will take a moment to address this issue in public and as plainly as I can. While there are relationships out there that are built upon these things, I speak only of Dad/son specifically and perhaps lightly on Dom/sub occasionally to clarify the boundaries and shared points between them. That said, a number of boys have expressed very similar issues and so it comes to this: A submissive is NOT an object. A submissive/boy is a rare thing, and the desire to please should never be taken for granted or abused by a Dominant/Daddy. Without their express consent and desire to be so, a Dom should never ‘expect’ or ‘demand’ that a submissive become one to be used. There should be extensive clarification and discussion before ‘training’ begins in such a thing. One should never simply ‘accept’ instruction without understanding what is desired of you. Yes there is submission to the will of another but at no point should that mean an erasure of your ‘self’ to please them. That is an extreme danger zone. Be wary of any who refuse to explain what they mean and will punish failure. To me this is so firmly into the realms of abusive that I have no choice but to respond with this regular piece of advice: Use caution or retreat entirely. You have to know what you want, be able to express that, and to work with your Dom to make that happen ONCE they have done the same for you. There are many out there who demand authority and power without earning it. If you are asked to do too much that makes you feel alone, isolated, or disrespected then you are in danger. While there ARE respectable relationships based on the use/apparent abuse of another human being the dividing line between them and real abuse is consensual understanding and agreement. If He expects you to be used by other men and you aren’t comfortable with that but demands it anyway, he and the situation, aren't’ right for you. You should never be treated as an object for use, never be disrespected as a human being and never EVER be abused because your nature as a boy is to submit. That makes you special, not weak, but it can make you vulnerable to predators. Know the warning signs and do NOT be afraid to be alone because you aren’t truly with them if they have no genuine concern or interest in you as a person BEFORE your usefulness as a sex object. You are a submissive, the natural completion of THEIR Dominant nature. You are the compliment to the Alpha in them, a beta. You are what makes a Daddy, you’re his boy. Don’t let anyone take that truth from you. Daddy says so. Beautifully stated. Doms and Daddies have a responsibility to care for and protect their boy or sub. Being submissive does not mean being inferior. Take pride in who you are and the tremendous gift that you provide as a sub/boy to your Daddy. -- source link