dottewa:selfihateyouithink:angelwiththebluetie:thecatsred:Can I just…FemdomI’m sorry, b

dottewa:selfihateyouithink:angelwiththebluetie:thecatsred:Can I just…FemdomI’m sorry, but no, that’s just disgusting. Both of these are instances of (sexual) assault, not a healthy, consensual D/s relationship. They are women who have no problem raping for power, and that is not femdom, that just makes me really sick to my stomach.What they said.This is a fundamental misunderstanding of D/s relationships, OP.It’s also exactly what heterosexist rape culture wants you to think. (And SPN has a terrible track record with clarifying which was which to its audience, because SPN has a terrible track record with dealing with some traumas appropriately. And in fact, the writers tend to not even take consent into account in a lot of scenes with sexual actions.)Please reevaluate your idea of consent dynamics.Additionally, if you think (internalized) sexism enforced by the patriarchy isn’t often at play in the erasure of f/m rape as “women dominating men” as though rape is ineffectual and unworthy of distaste, disdain, or downright terror when the aggressor is coded female (classic “women are too weak to rape and men always want it” excuses) and the victim is coded male, you are wrong.*Caveat: I don’t have a problem with the power fantasies we well deserve, free of moral/ethical boundaries, turning the subjugation, violent hypersexualization, and dehumanization we face every day upon men. I have a problem when it’s normalized as what BDSM is, what Strong Female Characters require, and what canon cishet-coded heterosexual relationships entail, and when it’s used to determine characters’ sexualities.I have a problem when it’s ignored as rape even when rape victims themselves are screaming till they’re blue in the face that it is, and thus untagged and inflicted onto us without warning. I have a problem when things like this, visibly without proper consent onscreen to at least some, are not enough to consider a character—particularly one coded female, in my experience, but I’m positive there are ones coded dudes that get the same treatment—a villain (or even a rapist) and call for their death/them to stay dead. /sighThe worst part is Dean might be able to have enough awareness of what’s going on to fight it, to make jokes back and to be sure he can get out of this, but Cass has no idea. He’s seen humans, but he’s never had the emotional response to it. And the women in his life? A woman who picked him up and offered marriage at his weakest, and a demon with a dominance streak (who almost raped another girl herself, using one of the main characters)- Both of whom would’ve and did make the first moves. So April making motions first was fitting for Cass, that’s what he expects, it’s one way he can tell what he’s going through is mutual and it’s something he knows is okay because the human/demon said it was okay. They make a move, he makes one back, that’s what he does.But he didn’t know that it wasn’t April, or that she wanted to use him, or that she wanted to kill him afterwards. Very few people would’ve known those layers of “human” complexity, and someone who rarely got to experience it outside of two people, both closed-off and secretive and constantly redefining themselves? He would’ve had no idea.Seriously they need someone in that writer’s room to yell at them to stop this. -- source link

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